Disrupting Divorce Album
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01 She’s Invisible To You
She’s invisible to youStanding right in your viewShe’s faded into the background noiseWhile you stand there forcing your own voiceShe wants you while you’re watching TVScrolling through what you don’t needWorking late, always goneShe’s been dying for so longWhile you justify pornShe’s screaming out, but it’s silence in your earsDrinking it away,It’s not the past, it’s you coping all these yearsShe’s falling apart right in front of youBut you’re blind, yeah you never knewShe’s begging just to feel a sparkWhile you sit there shutting down in the darkShe’s screamin’ out, but you don’t hear a soundNumbing out until you tear her downLost in lies, another dayShe don’t feel alive, just the painIt’s not the past, it’s how you react todayYou’re gonna have to make her seen and safeShe’s breaking down, you don’t seeAll the weight she carries silentlyYou don’t feel her pain, her needsShe’s drowning while you breatheNo empathyLiving with her, but you’re not thereEmpty space, empty stareShe turns towards, you just pass her byConstantly trying to fix the tears she criesShe’s fading fast, can you even tell?She’s living in her isolated hellShe’s falling apart right in front of youBut you’re blind, yeah you never knewShe’s begging just to feel a sparkWhile you sit there in the darkShe’s reaching out, you look awayLost in lies, another dayShe don’t feel alive anymoreLike she don’t exist anymoreYou thought providing was enoughBut your wife needs more than a paycheck, a roofShe needs you to change for you,And changing for you, the new you, the change is the hardest truthA man provides safety, emotionally, security, not just financiallySpiritually, physically, sexuallyHe’s present, he sees her,The laughter, the joy, the dreams, the desireBring her back to life, relight the fireBack to life, what’s she’s been missin’Start with one real moment,Do you even care who you’re listenin’ too?She’s still right there in front of youOpen your eyes, see her truthShe’s waiting just to feel aliveStill hoping love survivesDon’t let her fade into the nightReach for her now, hold her tightGo and get the love you knewShe needs faith, not hope in youNot hope in you
02 Lead Her First
You want her submission but you lead with the worstYou want her to follow but you can’t lead yourselfWalk through the door and the tension fills the roomYou wonder why she's distant — yeah, she's just surviving youYou keep score of every wrong, you shut down when she says noYou want respect but you haven't earned it, and deep down brother, you knowYou want her to submit — then lead her firstLove her like she's worth more than you’ve shown her you’re worthBring the peace, bring the passion, bring the partnership homeYou can't demand what you haven't shownLead her firstWhen's the last time you thanked her — really meant it, looked her in the eyesShe carries the children, carries the home, carries your prideYou call it leadership but it looks like controlYour wife can't feel safe in a house with no soulYou’re identity, really think about that, your soulStop guilting and shaming when she brings up what she needsA man who's truly leading doesn't crumble, doesn't pleadYou want her to submit — then lead her firstLove her like she's worth more than you’ve shown her you’re worthBring the peace, bring the passion, bring the partnership homeYou can't demand what you haven't shownLead her firstWhen a woman submits it's because she trusts the manNot because he forced her — because he took her handHe leads by example, he brings her close, he staysHe doesn't quit when it's hard or hide when it starts to fadeSubmit to your wife, brother — watch what God does nextShe'll meet every need you have — ones you never knew existYou want her to submit — then lead her firstDie to yourself, put her needs before your thirstBring the peace, bring the passion, bring the partnership homeShe'll give you everything — when she knows she's not aloneLead her firstLead her first
03 Eggshells
You haven't touched another woman, so you tell yourself you're cleanBut you're scrolling through your Instagram at 2am unseenTexting girls for validation, staring when another walks byYou're betraying your own wife, man, then you use porn and justifyThe real conversations died, replaced by what's for dinnerAnd you're out here blaming her for not wanting you, but you're the one sinnin’The floor in your home is made of eggshellsShe can't even breathe without you putting her through HellYou call it her problem, you say it’s her faultBut you built these walls man, brick by brick, every assaultEggshellsThe foundation of your homeThe foundation of your homeYou say you need sex to feel connected to herBut she needs to feel safe just to let you get nearYou're spinning on your hamster wheel, blaming and blindCoasting, settling, emotionally gone — been gone for such a damn long timeShe can't be unapologetically herself around youCan't hold you accountable, can't say what she needs toThe floor in your home is made of eggshellsShe can't even breathe without you putting her through HellYou call it her problem, you say it’s her faultBut you built these walls man, brick by brick, every assaultEggshellsThe foundation of your homeThe foundation of your homeYou don't have to fuck someone else to cheatEvery text and every lust, is a betrayal you makeStop justifying your needs like your queen owes you moreYou should WANT what she wants — that's what love is forRebuild the foundation, sweep up the fuckin eggshellsBe the man she married, be the safe place she fell forThe floor in your home is made of eggshellsShe can't even breathe without you putting her through HellYou call it her problem, you say it’s her faultBut you built these walls man, brick by brick, every assaultEggshellsThe foundation of your homeThe foundation of your homeNo more eggshells on the floorShe deserves a home worth coming home forStop the blame, stop the lies, stop the hiding in plain sightRebuild it from the ground up — do it rightNo more eggshellsJust sweep up the eggshellsSweep up the fuckin eggshells
04 She’s Not IN Love With You Anymore
She's not in love with you anymoreNot attracted, she's just settlingThe man you became ain't worth fighting forAnd she's too afraidTo say it to your facePraying you’ll figure it out one dayYour entitlement killed everything she knewShe doesn't want you, she’s tired of feeling so damn usedShe’s thinkingGod please can he get this over withRejecting him is just too painful to deal withYour wife doesn’t want you, she's managing youKeeping the storm calm, doing what she has to doYou think it's love when she gives in at nightBut she's choosing the bed over another fightShe don't want you — and you created this sexless lifeShe used to reach for you, couldn’t stand to be apartNow she's keeping the peace, placating, playing her partYou don't even see it, the distance in her eyesBut you can feel itShe's right beside you and somehow never thereDays turn to weeks, turn to months, turn to yearsEven when she's with you, the connection isn’t real[Pre-Chorus] [build]She’s thinkingGod please can he get this over withRejecting him is just too painful to deal withShe's not in love with you anymoreNot attracted, she's just settlingThe man you became ain't worth fighting forAnd she's too afraidTo say it to your facePraying you’ll figure it out one dayYour entitlement killed everything she knewShe doesn't want you, she’s tired of feeling so damn usedYou get pouty when she pulls awayYou sulk and shut down, ditch your responsibilitiesOr you push and you pressure,You say your calm but another all night lectureAnd she gives you what you need just to keep the peaceThat's not desire, no, that's a woman in survival modeCarrying your emotional burden, just so you can feel wholeShe’s thinkingGod please can he get this over withRejecting him is just too painful to deal withShe's not in love with you anymoreNot attracted, she's just settlingThe man you became ain't worth fighting forAnd she's too afraidTo say it to your facePraying you’ll figure it out one dayYour entitlement killed everything she knewShe doesn't want you, she’s tired of feeling so damn usedJob sex. Pity sex. Fear sex. Survival sex.She checks the box so she doesn't have to face what comes nextYour pouting, your pressure, your entitled rageYou’re not her husband— You became her cageAnd you wonder why the passion died?You killed it every time you made your needs her burdenCause you used her to surviveShe’s thinkingGod please can he get this over withRejecting him is just too painful to deal withShe's doesn’t want you, she's managing youAnd the saddest part is you let yourself believe it was trueStop taking what she gives out of fearBecome the man she actually wants nearBecause she don't want you — not like thisBut she couldStop fixing symptomsAddress the issuesSex is the byproductOf the manOf you.
05 Get Her Half Naked
You love to see your wife walking around half nakedBut she can'tYou try and jump her, you try and take itBut she was getting ready for the dayGetting comfortableChanging her dirty clothesFrom the puke or the messWith the kids there’s always more.You walk around like a horny teenagerShe doesn’t want a boy, women need a leaderI love when Kathryn walks around wearing next to nothing.Walking into the room, always leadin’ to somethin’Opens her towel up for a little showRight before she gets dressedOr when she lifts her dress for a little sneak peekI love the fun that comes with her doing all that for meIt's not an obvious flirt when she's sitting on the couch in her underwearBut she's comfortable enough to be this way, her body is mine and we love to shareYour wife won't just act like this, nowhere near sex with youStop smothering your wife, and she’ll stop rejecting youStop groping her when she's in front of the mirrorDon't poke her in the side to "remind" your junk is there[Verse]Stop touching her on the outside of her pantsReaching at every chanceStop justifying your use of pornBecause "she's not putting out"Stop praising yourself for "not cheating"You’re desperate and needyYou walk around like a horny teenagerShe doesn’t want a boy, women make love to leaders[Chorus][drop]I love when Kathryn walks around wearing next to nothingWalking into the room, always leadin’ to somethin’Opens her towel up for a little showRight before she gets dressedOr when she lifts her dress for a little sneak peekI love the fun that comes with her doing all that for meStop being passive-aggressive because she doesn't want youGetting frustrated or shutting down when she rejects youTake care of your home like an adultMad provider or notBe her partner get her out of mom modeAct like you know you'll still need to provide and be a great dadWhen she’s goneYou walk around like a horny teenagerShe doesn’t want a boy, women connect and fuck their leaderI love when Kathryn walks around wearing next to nothingWalking into the room, always leadin’ to somethin’Opens her towel up for a little showRight before she gets dressedOr when she lifts her dress for a little sneak peekI love the fun that comes with her doing all that for meYou want your wife walking around wearing next to nothingWalking into the room, always leadin’ to somethin’Opens her towel up for a little showRight before she gets dressedOr when she lifts her dress for a little sneak peekYou’ll love the fun and mad passion, set your marriage free
06 She's Outgrowing You
She's spending more time in the mirror these daysNot for you — she's finding herself againYou call it selfish, call it a phaseBut she's remembering the woman before your painYou criticize her, shame her, tear her downTell yourself you are the greatest man aroundNow her self-esteem has climbed higher than your treatmentAnd she started seeing through every lie you’ve been speakingYou forced her to lower her standards just to keep her smallNow she's rising — and brother, that terrifies you most of allShe's outgrowing youEvery day she gets stronger, you get more afraidShe's outgrowing youThe confidence you crushed is climbing back up from her graveHer standards rising, your insecurities showingShe's becoming who she was — and you're not growingShe's outgrowing youYou tear her down just to build yourself as a manDefensiveness masking what you don't understandThe more you push her down to justify yourselfThe more she regrets the life she was promised —A reflection of yourselfI know this because I was that manI blamed Kathryn — I was the one who couldn't standThat she was becoming more than I deservedAnd I had two choices — grow up or watch her goYou forced her to lower her standards just to keep her smallNow she's rising — and brother, that terrifies you most of allShe's outgrowing youEvery day she gets stronger, you get more afraidShe's outgrowing youThe confidence you crushed is climbing back up from her graveHer standards rising, your insecurities showingShe's becoming who she was — and you're not growingShe's outgrowing youI took actionI grewMy self-esteem climbed and my confidence with itNothing left to prove to herEverything to prove to myselfWHO I WANTED TO BE AS A MANI showed upI wasn't gonna lose herI wasn't gonna lose my familyThat version of me had to dieTHAT VERSION OF ME HAD TO DIEDon't let her outgrow youShe's not the problem — you've been the ceiling all alongDon't let her outgrow youBecome the man she married, become the man she needsHer standards climbing should be pulling you upNot pushing you to bring her to her kneesShe's still right thereBut she won't wait foreverOutgrow yourselfBefore she outgrows you altogether
07 Who’s She Supposed To Love
He drops everything the moment that she callsPuts her on a pedestalFlowers, gifts, acts of service, he's the perfect manDoes everything for her — nobody loves her like he canBut he believes she doesn't love him back the way he loves herSlow and quiet at first, he starts to simmerShuts down, checks out, ditches he’s hidin’Until he breaks, anger, rage, repeat the cycle,And she's standing in the kitchen wonderingWhich version walks through that doorHow could she know, you don’t even knowWho you are anymoreShe’s married to three men,So how's she supposed to know who to love and where to beginWho's she supposed to love?Man one, man two, or man three?The one who worships herThe one who hidesThe one who rages then acts like it's all fineWho's she supposed to love?You've got three men living insideYou don't even know who you areSo how's she supposed to love youWhen you just keep repeating the cycleYou’re damn loving is a love bombYou might not be a narc, but you don’t know how to loveThe resentment builds until the boil hits the topMan three shows up — lectures, rages, won't stopSays things that cut deep, things you can’t take backThen man three walks back with a narcissistic attackShe's not confused about love — she's confused about youOne day her hero, next day someone she has to get throughShe's not pulling away because she doesn’t loveShe's protecting herself from three men who can’t receive loveThree men, one house, one woman trying to hold itShe loves you but brother she's running out of ways to show itYou don't even know who you areSo who is she supposed to love?Who's she supposed to love?Man one, man two, or man three?The one who worships herThe one who hidesThe one who rages then acts like it's all fineWho's she supposed to love?You've got three men living insideYou don't even know who you areSo how's she supposed to love youWhen you just keep repeating the cycleYou’re damn loving is a love bombYou might not be a narc, but you don’t know how to loveMan one — she's everything, he'd bleed for herMan two — punishes her with silence, copes, disappearsMan three — explodes, lectures, rages, tears it apartThen man one shows back up with a sorry and a heartRound and round and round you goShe's not crazy — she's exhaustedYou don't even know who you areAnd the man that you are, she doesn’t feel safe, she’s accostedWho's she supposed to love?Figure out who the hell you are firstOne man — consistent, safe, presentNot a cycle — not a curseShe WANTS to love youGive her one man worth lovingStop being threeStart being himThat's who she's supposed to loveThat's where it beginsYou’re damn loving is a love bombYou might not be a narc, but you don’t know how to love
08 You're The Weapon
She’s not using sex as a weapon, she’s gone insideYou think it's over but she still remembers every fightYou can be sweet the next day, bring her flowers, act rightBut she's protecting herself — She knows the truth, you're not safe at nightYou don’t do the things you say you'll doShe can't count on you — and now there's no roomFor desire, for butterflies, for wanting you nearResentment took that space — and it's been building up for yearsShe's not broken, she's not cold, she's not using youShe's protecting herself from the man whos using herYou want to know why she won't come close?Look in the mirror brother — you’re reactions are grossYou make a move cause you want her, but she don’t feel the same wayYou don’t fight for a while, but it might as well been yesterdayShe's not withholding — you're the weaponShe's not broken — you made her this wayShe's not using sex to punish youYou punished her — and you expect her to play?She's not withholding — you're the weaponShe’s not using sex as a weaponShe’s just protecting herself the only way she canYou're the weaponYou're the weaponShe's been managing kids and the house all dayManaging the schedule, the emotions, your mood — your wayAnd you poke her in the side like that's gonna workLike one lazy touch erases every time you've hurtShe fakes the "oh baby" just to shut you upTakes pity, does the job, because it's easier than your lack of loveOf your passive-aggressive comments, your pouting, your rulesMaking her feel broken — brother, I’ve been that same damn foolShe's not using sex as a weapon — she never wasYou made sex a chore yet you wonder why she doesn’t want youShe just wants to feel safe enough to actually desire youThat man still exists — question is, are you gonna chose himYou make a move cause you want her, but she don’t feel the same wayYou don’t fight for a while, but it might as well been yesterdayShe's not withholding — you're the weaponShe's not broken — you made her this wayShe's not using sex to punish youYou punished her — and you expect her to play?She's not withholding — you're the weaponShe’s not using sex as a weaponShe’s just protecting herself the only way she canYou're the weaponYou're the weaponI was youI know exactly who you areI was the weapon, watched our sex life fallBut we saved it all, from the depths of HellIt's easy to flip this Show up secure,show up strongBe the safe place she missesWhere she feels like she belongsDitch the entitlement, the attitudeStart showing up with gratitudeDesire to desire comes first, then her need to connectTHEN go crazy — you'll know the differenceYou make a move cause you want her, but she don’t feel the same wayYou don’t fight for a while, but it might as well been yesterdayShe's not withholding — you are the weaponNow become the man she actually cravesNot entitlement — earn it, lead it, own itBe the reason she comes out of survival and staysShe's not withholding — she's waitingFor the secure, strong, safe man she was promisedDrop the weaponCall up the manShe’s still your womanBe her man
09 You Can Have It Too
I've seen men who had nothingBuild something from the groundI've seen broken marriagesTurn all the way aroundI've seen a man who was the problemFinally own his partI've seen the coldest womanCome back with an open heartI'm not calling you outI'm calling you upYou've got everything you needJust refuse to give upIf someone else has it — you can have it tooIf someone else made it — you can make it throughYou've got a hundred percent shot, If you just don't quitSomeone out there already proved itThat this is possible to winYou can have it tooYou can have it tooMaybe you've been the weapon in your own lifeMaybe you can’t say no, you sacrificedMaybe you’ve coped, checked out, sat in your pain or raged outMaybe you've watched your marriage die, she checked outI’ve been in your shoesAnd I’m tellin’ youBrother It ain’t prayers, it’s your executionDon’t be your problem, be your solutionsI'm not calling you outI'm calling you upYou've got everything you needJust refuse to give upIf someone else has it — you can have it tooIf someone else made it — you can make it throughYou've got a hundred percent shot, If you just don't quitSomeone out there already proved itThat this is possible to winYou can have it tooYou can have it tooDon't quit on your wifeDon't quit on your kidsDon't quit on the manThat God knows you caaaaaaan beThe man you know that God made you to beYou're not too brokenYou're not too far goneDoesn’t matter your wrongsRelease your shame, Let go of your guilt.You’re expected to be a man and never been taughtSo don't you dare stopDon't you dare stopIf someone else has it — you can have it tooIf someone else made it — you can make it throughYou've got a hundred percent shot, If you just don't quitSomeone out there already proved itThat this is possible to winIf someone has it — YOU can have it tooIf someone made it — then you can make it throughA hundred percent shot, It was always yours to claimSomeone already walked out of the fire, And you can do the sameYou can have it tooYou can have it tooYou can have it too
10 Disrupting Divorce
[Intro]More people get divorced in one yearThan died in the Civil WarWorld War One, World War TwoVietnam and Korea — combinedWe are at warAnd most people don't even know they're in it[Verse 1]The statistics say your marriage won't make itThe culture says walk away, you don’t deserve thisHalf the homes are breaking while the children watch it burnNobody's fighting for the covenant anymoreBut we are — we areEveryone who quits becomes a casualtyEvery home that breaks is every child’s tragedyBut everyone who stands is bringing Heaven Back to the fightWe’re bringing heaven down, we’re Bringing God’s light[Pre-Chorus]I've been to the depths of Hell in my own homeDrowning in this war, I thought I was aloneI know what it costs and I know what it takesAnd I know what's on the line every time our families break[Chorus]The Devil's coming for your marriage — we're disrupting divorceWe're taking back what hell is fighting us forIt's not your spouse, it's not your kids — own your partWe're disrupting divorceThe battlefield is real, it starts in your heartEvery person who rises, every home that healsThat's Heaven breaking through — that's what this war revealsWe are at warWe're disrupting divorce[Verse 2]They said it couldn't be done — they said let them goThey said some things are broken beyond what love can growBut I looked at Kathryn and I chose to be the manI took responsibility, she took 100% of her 10And now we’re here telling you — we’re proofThat a broken marriage can rebuild with a new truthOne person, your children, your legacy, your lifeOne person deciding to fight, can save the rest of their life[Pre-Chorus]I'm not calling you out — I'm calling you upTo the front lines friend — pick yourself upYour spouse, your kids, your legacy, your nameAre worth more than your pride, your comfort, your shame[Chorus]The Devil's coming for your marriage — we're disrupting divorceWe're taking back what hell is fighting us forIt's not your spouse, it's not your kids — own your partWe're disrupting divorceThe battlefield is real, it starts in your heartEvery person who rises, every home that healsThat's Heaven breaking through — that's what this war revealsWe are at warWe're disrupting divorce[Bridge — battle cry, building to explosion]EVERY STATISTIC HAS A NAMEEVERY DIVORCE HAS A CHILD WHO CARRIES THE PAINEVERY BROKEN HOME WAS ONCE A PROMISE MADEWE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO REFUSE TO LET IT FADEThis is not a movement — this is a missionTHIS IS OUR PURPOSE, this is a battle positionTo everyone in this room, to everyone in the worldYou are the difference between broken and restored[Final Chorus — full anthem]We're disrupting divorceNot just Kathryn and me, with all the men and women who finally leadWe're disrupting divorceWith accountability, with covenant, integrityEveryone who rises,every home that holdsEvery child who grows up whole — that's the story being toldWe are at warWe're disrupting divorceWe are at warWE ARE AT WAR
11 She Deserves Your Best
[Verse 1]You held the door for a stranger todaySmiled at your coworker, had the right things to sayPatient at the meeting, professional and kindBut you walked through that front doorAnd left all of that behindShe watched you laugh with your friends on the phoneThen turns and she asks a questionYour usual reactions, she’s learned her lesson,So she stops, she starts coastin’She just turns and walks awayBut you follow, you lecture, you holler, you pressureYou're nicer to everyone else then you are to her[Pre-Chorus]You’re so defensive, you blame her for it allCommanding respect, you tear her down to build yourself up[Chorus]You give your best to strangersShe's been living on high alert, in dangerAll she wants is to feel safeShe can’t submit, she’s too afraidYou're sweet and fun to everyone around youCharismatic, everyone loves youBut you come home and you changeYou’re so cold and your rageShe deserves your best — not your worst[Verse 2]You wouldn't talk to your boss the way you talk to herYou wouldn't snap at your friends when they say something hurtsBut you shut down when you don’t feel lovedShe gets the anger, like she’s never enoughThe side of you nobody else ever seesThe side that's destroying her peaceShe's not cold because she's brokenShe's not distant because she's goneShe's protecting herself from the manWho guilts and he shames, he judges herYet he believes he truly loves her[Pre-Chorus]You’re so defensive, you blame her for it allCommanding respect, you tear her down to build yourself up[Chorus]You give your best to strangersShe's been living on high alert, in dangerAll she wants is to feel safeShe can’t submit, she’s too afraidYou're sweet and fun to everyone around youCharismatic, everyone loves youBut you come home and you changeYou’re so cold and your rageShe deserves your best — not your worst[Bridge — soft, builds slowly]What if you walked through that doorThe way you stepped into the worldPresentPatientA leaderWhat if she got the version of you, you give the rest of the worldWhat if she finally felt likeShe mattered mostWhat if you treated your wifeLike what she was worth the most[Final Chorus — full build]Give her your best, not your worstShe's been waiting her whole life for thisGive her your best, not your worstShe's your queen — she deserves more than your bullshitBe patient, be present, be kindLead like you do in the worldShe's asking for youYour bestNot your worst
12 Peel The Label Off
They handed you a labelSaid this is who you arePicked Narcissist, or avoidantDefined by all your scarsNobody asked what happenedTo the child who became this manThey just handed you a diagnosisThen washed their handsEveryone wants to save a childNobody wants to deal with what he grew intoBut that broken little boy became youI was that man tooKnow God has more for youPeel the label offYou are not what they called youPeel the label offYou were not made for this cageI survived the worst of myselfI owned it, I changed who I wasYou can peel it offYou can peel the label offThe world will march for a child in painPut it on the news, hashtag the nameBut the man that child became?They call him broken, dangerous, he’s to blameShe seen the reel, sent the link"This is exactly you"There's a difference between knowing your woundAnd sittin’ in the pain, the anchor attached to youEveryone wants to save a childNobody wants to deal with what he grew intoBut that broken little boy became youI was that man toKnow God has more for youPeel the label offYou are not what they called youPeel the label offYou were not made for this cageI survived the worst of myselfI owned it, I changed who I wasYou can peel it offYou can peel the label offSomeone hurt that little boyAnd nobody saved himHe grew into a manWho carried all that shameThe world says save the childrenBut when a man needs savin’They hand him a labelAnd tell him he’s not capableYou are not your diagnosisYou are not your darkest chapterYou are not what broke youRewrite your story, chapter twoI BEAT ITI SURVIVED ITI BECAME SOMEONE NEWAND IF I DIDBROTHERSO CAN YOUPEEL THE LABEL OFFYou are not what they called youPEEL THE LABEL OFFYou were made for more than this cageStop hiding behind what you've been handedOwn it, face it, changePEEL IT OFFPEEL THE LABEL OFFYOU CAN PEEL IT OFFChristian rock, finger picking to punchy, no screaming slow intimate build quiet vulnerable verse rising prechorus explosive anthem chorus powerful emotional male vocalist drives to a massive bridge breakdown before final release no country organic band sound builds like Alternative rock, Christian rock, Southern rock or Christian rock, hard rock, alternative rock,
13 Kill The Monster
Who are you texting, why are you laughing at your phone?Why'd you dress like that, who are you wearing that underwear for?We haven't touched in weeks, so what does that say about me?My mind's running in nineteen directions I can't breatheI love you so much but so much fear and anxietyI'm trying to hold on but my grip is all you feelI can see you shutting down, I know I'm pushing you awayI know you love me, but I see it, I’m losing you every dayI keep feeding the monsterIt's getting stronger every dayInsecurityDestroying our love, getting in your wayMy fear became your prisonFear of abandonment, feeds my doubtThe monster keeps on growingAnd I know I’m pushing you outIt's not the monster, it’s meI’m so afraidI shut down or lose it — there's no in betweenI declare the rules of marriage, tell you how you should feel about meThen I apologize, I promise, baby I'll fix me this timeBut the monster's always hungry and I feed it to surviveI don't trust you because I don't trust myselfI destroy you, cause I depend on youI need you to feel good enough about myselfI can see you shutting down, I know I'm pushing you awayI know you love me, but I see it, I’m losing you every dayI keep feeding the monsterIt's getting stronger every dayInsecurityDestroying our love, getting in your wayMy fear became your prisonFear of abandonment, feeds my doubtThe monster keeps on growingAnd I know I’m pushing you outIt's not the monster, it’s meI’m so afraidI hate that I don't feel good enough for youI hate the fear of losing youI hate that I wake with regretI hate the things I do, things I said, not being your giftI've lost myselfI don't even know who I am without youRippin’ you apart, tearing you down, to build myself upTo feel secureYou're still hereYou haven't goneBut I know you need me to kill the monsterNot fight youI know you're not the enemyYou never wereIt's always been the monsterIt's always been meLet me kill the monsterBefore it kills meI need to Kill the monsterBefore it takes you awayLet me Kill the monsterBring you back to life, stop the accusations, the blameYour love was never the problemMy fear is what I need to faceLet me Kill the monsterBefore it kills meI need to kill the monsterAnd let your man take it’s placeLet me take its place
14 She's Carrying All The Loads
She's up before the sun, last one to bedRunning all the calendars, activities in her headMeals, groceries, kids, the chores, the planMarketplace pickups, the kids emotions, you don’t understandThen you walk through that door and drop your dayOne more load for her to carry — same as yesterdayYou work your whole day, then sit on the couchYour job is done — hers never clocks outStep over sippy cups, ignore bed timeDrink after your shift, you're not her partnerYou’re a weak manYou provide but you’re barely a husband a fatherThe kids load, the home loadYour emotional load too24 hours, 365That’s what she’s going throughShe's carrying all the loadsAll you do is unload, hoping tonight you’ll get her in animal modeAnd you’re stuck in provider modeShe's carrying all the loadsRunning out of strength to climbSo she doesn't want to break the bed with you tonightShe’s not passionate about youShe's passionate about her break from the day from youShe needs a break from you tonightAll you care ‘bout is using her for moreBut she’s carrying all the loadsThe kids have touched her out before you get homeShe's been managing their emotions all day longYou unpack your stress, she carries that tooThen brings the masculine for youIf she has to run you, she’ll reject youYou pout because she's got nothing left to giveLike you don't even see the life she livesThe kids load, the home loadYour emotional load too24 hours, 365That’s what she’s going throughShe's carrying all the loadsAll you do is unload, hoping tonight you’ll get her in animal modeAnd you’re stuck in provider modeShe's carrying all the loadsRunning out of strength to climbSo she doesn't want to break the bed with you tonightShe’s not passionate about youShe's passionate about her break from the day from youShe needs a break from you tonightAll you care ‘bout is using her for moreBut she’s carrying all the loadsMen say I provideLike money lifts a loadThey say the home is her jobThey did their jobLike she signed up to carry it aloneBecause they think she’s wrongShe wanted a partnerNot another child to raiseSomeone who sees the weightBefore she has to sayShe's not coldShe's not withholdingShe's exhaustedShe's passionate about one thing tonightHer breakFrom youShe's carrying all the loadsAll you do is unload, hoping tonight you’ll get her in animal modeAnd you’re stuck in provider modeShe's carrying all the loadsRunning out of strength to climbSo she doesn't want to break the bed with you tonightShe’s not passionate about youShe's passionate about her break from the day from youNeeds a break from you tonightAll you care ‘bout is using her for moreBut she’s carrying all the loads
15 Submit To Your Wife First
You're afraid of her reaction, scared to make a moveYou keep the peace to get the sex, but brother you’ve lost youYou hide behind her decisions, waiting for approvalAnother child she's raising — that's the painful truthYou used to be the man who had an opinion and stood in itConfident, assertive, gentle but you meant itSomewhere along the way you traded strength for keeping stillAngry outburstsNow she's looking at a toddler — not a man with willShe doesn't need another childShe needs a man to leadStop smothering, stop hidingGive her what she actually needsSubmit to your wife firstLead by example — that's how this worksYou want respect, be respectfulMake mad money, get healthy, give to the world, and make your wife safeMake the plans, make the calls, don't be afraidWhen you submit as her leaderShe submits to youAnd she sits on your lap, touches your faceSays she proud to be your wifeWon’t have it any other wayI make sure she's got money, I follow through on my wordI date her every day, I actually hear what she saidI let her have her bad days without making them mineI flip the tension into something worth her timeI was a narcissist — I abused her, I knowI owned every bit of it and I watched us both growZero expectations, just leadership and graceAnd now I get everything — because I became her safe placeShe's not a pushoverKathryn steals every room she walks inShe's a powerhouse alphaWho I led to trust me againSubmit to your wife firstLead by example — that's how this worksYou want respect, be respectfulMake mad money, get healthy, give to the world, and make your wife safeMake the plans, make the calls, don't be afraidWhen you submit as her leaderShe submits to youAnd she sits on your lap, touches your faceSays she proud to be your wifeWon’t have it any other wayShe tells the world she’d be crazy to live without meNo one will do the work I’ve done, I’m finally proud to hear she’s proud of meShe sends kiss picsShe lifts me up out loudShe compliments my brainMy body, my jokesShe desires me every dayI became moreI didn't get here by demandingI got here by becomingStop being another childStart being her manStop hiding behind herTake the wheelTake the standSubmit to your wife firstSubmit to your wife firstLead by example — that's how this worksDate her, see her, hear her, show up every single dayBe consistent, be decisive, don't look awayWhen you submit as her leaderShe submits to youAnd she runs across the roomShe’ll feelI’d be crazy to live without youI’d be crazy to live without you
16 Kathryn
[Verse 1]I was a man that no one should have stayed for, especially youI shamed you, I blamed you, I threw you to the floorTelling you you didn’t love me, so much abuseI broke you emotionally— 7 personalities, and I believed I loved youBut I used you, your body, then broke you to build myself upThe Restraining order, all the separations,You had every reason to give upBut Baby you protected our childrenSomethin’ in you held on to something, I could be more[Pre-Chorus]You didn't accept my changes, they were baseline normalYou didn't believe your narcissist, I was too fake, so typicalYou stopped enabling me, stopped allowing me to be such an abusive manYou stood in your strength, Now you’re the reason I loveAnd the proof that I can[Chorus]KathrynYou loved me like the woman you were created to beKathrynYou became the catalyst that lit my fire, you set me freeYou didn't save me by staying smallYou saved me by refusing to fallGod knew what He was doing when He gave me youBaby cakes mama, my sweet love, Kathryn, Baby I love you[Verse 2]I finally stopped performing and I started to breakGot on my knees and asked God what it was gonna to takeYou wanted the white picket fence, keep your family togetherYou wanted to try, no matter what happened, I was pretendin’And if I fucked up, I was going to jailSo you didn’t believe my changes were realCan’t believe you didn’t cheat, didn’t leaveThank God for our children, your love for our kids, you made yourself stay[Pre-Chorus]You didn't accept my changes, they were baseline normalYou didn't believe your narcissist, I was too fake, so typicalYou stopped enabling me, stopped allowing me to be such an abusive manYou stood in your strength, Now you’re the reason I loveAnd the proof that I can[Chorus]KathrynYou loved me like the woman you were created to beKathrynYou became the catalyst that lit my fire, you set me freeYou didn't save me by staying smallYou saved me by refusing to fallGod knew what He was doing when He gave me youBaby cakes, mama, my sweet love, Kathryn, Baby I love you[Bridge — builds from quiet to full]Even when we struggle nowWe break through to a higher levelEvery hard season just provesWhat God built between us is eternalYou saved my lifeNot by giving in — but by being my wifeI know who I am nowI love who I am nowI love who we areI finally know it’s true.I’m so damn proud of you, so damn proud that now I can accept youYou taught me that too, i’m so grateful for youInspiring, leading and changing the world for our childrenMost of all for me, after all I'm a narc, I make it all about meAnd yeah — I'm still a narcI might narc outBut I'm your narc, I’m yoursAnd I thank God every dayThat you didn't give up on me[Final Chorus — full emotional release]KathrynOur kids are watching us change the worldKathrynWe're breaking the cycle for Briar, Riddick and ValeEvery other boy and girlYou didn't just save our marriageYou saved my lifeTheir father, your husband, the world’s leaderI’m so grateful for you, my teacherGod knew exactly what He was doingWhen He gave me youAll the people we serve, God, together, we thank you.[Outro]We can't believe who I used to beI can't believe who we are nowBaby you showed me eternityI’m so grateful you stayedThank God you saved meYou didn't accept normal from a man who'd been abusiveYou held your standard higher and I fought it until I could reach itAnd when I finally got thereYou were already on your knees thanking God with meBaby cakes, mama, my sweet love, Kathryn, Baby I love you
17 Don’t Talk To Your Wife (Not About This)
[Verse 1]She's coasting or cheating, or she wants to leaveAnd you feel like the rug got pulled out from under your feetAfterall you love her right, she should know, she should believeToo many men wait for rock bottomThen they say, I didn’t think it was this badNow they accept they’re the problemThen, Baby tell me what kind of man do you wish you hadYou’re leanin’ on your wife for the answerInstead of just standing up and lookin’ in the mirror[Verse 2]You say "I need to talk to my wife first"Like you need permission to stop the bleedingLike the man who caused the hurtNeeds her approval to finally start leadingYou're waiting for a sign that she's on board againBut brother that's exactly what she's been waiting for — you leadin'[Pre-Chorus]She doesn't want you to ask her how to fix itShe's already running this house while you run it downShe doesn't want a partner who needs permissionShe wants a man who makes a decision[Chorus]Don’t talk to your wife (not about this)You need to make a choice (No decision is decision)You've been asking for permissionWhen she's been longing for your voiceNobody gives a shit who you're gonna be(She knows who you are)— defined by how you make her feelShe's told you what she needs (a thousand times)You've shown her (a thousand times) you don't care about her needsDon’t talk to your wife, (Not about this)Lead your wife out of the chaos[Verse 4]In the beginning you had an opinionYou were gentle but you stood your groundYou didn't need her validationThat's exactly what she wanted — she wanted her man around[Pre-Chorus]She doesn't want to manage another decisionShe's already drowning in what she carries aloneShe doesn't want a partner who needs permissionShe wants a man —just her man to lead her home[Chorus]Don’t talk to your wife (not about this)You need to make a choice (No decision is decision)You've been asking for permissionWhen she's been longing for your voiceNobody gives a shit who you're gonna be(She knows who you are)— defined by how you make her feelShe's told you what she needs (a thousand times)You've shown her (a thousand times) you don't care about her needsDon’t talk to your wife, (Not about this)Lead your wife out of the chaos[Bridge - conviction building]Your marriage is rough because you need her approvalYour dependence on her is fuckin' brutalCan't make a move without her say-soShe's runnin’ the show, brother, you need helpThe first decision you make as a manIs the one you make right nowWithout asking[Final Chorus — full release, drop the hammer]Don’t talk to your wife (not about this)You need to make a choice (No decision is decision)You've been asking for permissionWhen she's been longing for your voiceNobody gives a shit who you're gonna be(She knows who you are)— defined by how you make her feelShe's told you what she needs (a thousand times)You've shown her (a thousand times) you don't care about her needsDon’t talk to your wife, (Not about this)Lead your wife out of the chaos
18 She Doesn't Believe My Changes Are Real
[Verse 1]I put my phone down, I come home earlyI’m present, I try to show herBut she looks right through me like I'm someone she used to knowShe's heard it all beforeI stopped the drinking, I go to church nowI'm reading books and I'm doing the work nowBut she’s scrollin’, when I reach for her handShe pulls away like she's still waiting for it to hurt[Pre-Chorus]And maybe she's rightMaybe I haven't gone long enoughMaybe a few weeks, a few months of betterWon’t erase years, the wounds, the pain, the trauma forever[Chorus]She saysYou’re changes aren’t real, they won’t lastIt’s too little to lateI think, she’s stuck in the pastBut when I try, I controlManipulateShe doesn't believe my changes are realShe's counting the days till I go back to the man she knowsShe doesn't believe what I say, what I feelToo little too late — But I wanna believe,That she’s clinging on to hope[Verse 2]She said "I've heard your sorry before"She said "I know exactly who you are"Because I love her one minuteBut she doesn’t love as much as meDoesn’t try like I doSo I shut down, and pull awayTill I lose it, repeat the cycleIn the triangle, I make her pay[Pre-Chorus]And maybe she's rightMaybe I haven't gone long enoughMaybe a few weeks or months of betterDoesn't erase years, the wounds, the pain, the trauma forever[Chorus]She saysYou’re changes aren’t real, they won’t lastIt’s too little to lateI think, she’s stuck in the pastBut when I try, I controlManipulateShe doesn't believe my changes are realShe's counting the days till I go back to the man she knowsShe doesn't believe what I say, what I feelToo little too late — But I wanna believe,That she’s clinging on to hope[Bridge, powerful, emotional, loud]She's not trying to punish youShe's trying to protect herselfEvery time she let you in beforeEventually, you locked that doorShe's not cold because she stopped loving youShe's cold because she loved you too muchAnd every apology you ever gave herJust reminded her of every time you gave upShe doesn't need you to prove it with wordsShe needs you to stop making her dieShe's not the wall — you built the wallAnd she's been standing on the other sideWaiting for you to understandTo Fuckin do it, don’t just try[Final Chorus — soft, resolved, empathy-first]She doesn't believe my changes are realAnd I finally understand whyI'm not asking her to meet me halfwayI'm just going to keep showing upEvery dayShe's not broken — I broke herAnd trust doesn't come back from apologiesIt comes back from me showing her what we could beNot hope in me, but I need faith in me, proving “us”Discipline, consistencyDoing thisLong after she believes in us
19 She's Not Controlling You
[Verse 1]You call her controllingSay she's never satisfiedStubborn, Type A control freakIt’s easier to blame then take responsibilitySay she's always on your caseCan't do a damn thing rightBut brother let me ask you somethingBefore you write her off againWho was she when you met herAnd who were you back thenShe had standards when you found herYou thought she was perfect back thenYou rose to meet herThat's why she said yesNow you call the same thing a problem'Cause you stopped doing the workShe didn't change her standardsYou just stopped showing up first[Pre-Chorus]She's not your enemyShe's not the threatShe's just the woman who remembersWho you were and hasn't given up yet[Chorus]She's not controlling youShe's just not lowering her standards for youShe's not controlling youShe's holding the line that you’ve been walking throughShe's not your problemShe's your mirrorAnd you don't like what you seeShe's not controlling youShe's waiting for the man you used to beThe man you should be[Verse 2]You want her to relaxJust let things goBut every time she asks for somethingYou act like she don't knowThat you're tired, that you're tryingThat you're doing your bestBut brother your best right nowAin't passing her testShe didn't marry a manWho needed her to want lessShe married a man who was safe enough for her to feelLike she could finally restYou turned that upside downNow she's carrying it allAnd when she asks you to step upYou call it a wall[Pre-Chorus]She's not your enemyShe's not the threatShe's just the woman who remembersWho you were and hasn't given up yet[Chorus]She's not controlling youStop telling yourself that lieShe's not controlling youShe's just asking you to tryNot for her — for youFor the man you said you wereShe's not controlling youShe never wasShe's just not settling for lessThan what you showed her first[Bridge — conviction, direct]Stop blaming her standards for your lack of themStop calling her difficult when difficult is easy for the right manYou picked her because she made you want to be betterNow you want her to want lessBecause being better got heavyThe man she married didn't resent her standardsHe was built by them[Chorus]She's not controlling youShe's just not lowering her standards for youShe's not controlling youShe's holding the line that you’ve been walking throughShe's not your problemShe's your mirrorAnd you don't like what you seeShe's not controlling youShe's waiting for the man you used to beThe man you should be[Final Chorus]She's not controlling youStop telling yourself that lieShe's not controlling youShe's just asking you to tryNot for her — for youFor the man you said you wereShe's not controlling youShe never wasShe's just not settling for lessThan what you showed her first
20 I Want You To Want Me
[Verse 1]I used to reach for you every nightLike your body was my right, like it was owedI never asked what was going through your mindI never thought aboutWhat I was takin’ from your soulI thought you were coldI thought you were withholdingI made it about me, I’m a man, I got needsWhat about meBut when you said yes, you weren't saying yes to sexYou were saying yes to a manWho made you afraid of what came after you sayin no to me[Pre-Chorus]I’ve learnedJob sex. She checks it off the listPity sex. She feels sorry for himFear sex. Sex is just easier than dealin’ with his shit[Chorus]I want you to want meNot the way you laid there, or bent over just to keep the peaceNot the way you gave yourself to manage meI want you to want meThe way you used to before my naked fitsPullin’ out of you to scream at youRiippin strips off youRunnin’ around nakedStrippin’ safety from youI want you to want me, like I want youGod I want you to want meThe right way nowI’m safe now[Verse 2]There's a place past all of thatWhere you choose it — not because you have toWhere you want it, cause you want it too, to feel close to meAnd you're not scared of where it goesAnd beyond that — you're crazy about mePresent. Alive, you desire, Choosing it againThat's the woman I never gave you room to beI learned I stole it from you, from meBut when you said yes, you weren't saying yes to sexYou were saying yes to a manWho made you afraid of what came after you sayin no to me[Pre-Chorus]I’ve learnedJob sex. She checks it off the listPity sex. She feels sorry for himFear sex. Sex is just easier than dealin’ with his shit[Chorus]I want you to want meNot the way you laid there, or bent over just to keep the peaceNot the way you gave yourself to manage meI want you to want meThe way you used to before my naked fitsPullin’ out of you to scream at youRiippin strips off youRunnin’ around nakedStrippin’ safety from youI want you to want me, like I want youGod I want you to want meThe right way nowI’m safe now[Bridge —When a woman doesn’t desire her husbandDoesn’t even want to be intentionalDoesn’t desire to desireThere’ll never be passion, no fireShe has to have needs, and those needs, require a man who leadsShe’s safe, she’s whole, he doesn’t fight backWhen she holds him accountable.Intimacy is more than sex, it’s emotionalConnectIn conversation, in laughter, dreams, achieving goals, then yeah sex.Just fuck and connect, and so much more comes next[Final Chorus — quiet, resolved]I want you to want meNot because you're afraid of what I'll doNot because you feel sorryNot because you think you have toI want you to want meThe way desire was always supposed to feelFreeSafeRealI want you to want meI want you to want me[Outro]You were more afraid of the man I’d become if we didn’t have sexThen giving in, surrenderin’ your body,until you had nothing left
21 She Doesn't Want Sex (But I Do)
[Intro –sung once]She doesn't want sexBut I do[Verse 1]I remember when she'd pull me close before I even askedWhen Saturday morning meant staying in bedShe was present in the moment, she was playful, crazy about meShe was wild, whatever I askedThen I lost it, she stopped wantin’ me[Pre-Chorus]If you can’t connect, when does she rejectLook at the rejection ladder.If’s She’s not where you are, she’s not there, work lower[Chorus]If she doesn't want sex and doesn’t desireWhat’re the dates like? Same old, or on fire?Not there, work lowerWhat’re the sexual flirts like? Can you touch her?Non sexual banter, anticipation does she feel it like you feel it for herHow’s the wit? Is it fun or passive aggressive, is wit a weapon?Still not there work lowerConversation’s where it's at, communication ain’t keyBut not there? How’s the day to day about your dayAre you walking on eggshells before walking through the doorThen that’s ground level, you’re starting on the floor[Verse 2]The flirting stopped firstThen the dates felt like nothingShe stopped laughing at my jokesStopped sitting close on the couchI stopped trying 'cause trying just made it worseAnd when I try, I know she’ll just hideAnd the rejection hurts[Verse 3]No real conversationsJust awkward, not comfortable, silenceI'd walk through the door and the room would go coldShe flinches when I touched herThat grossed out look like you’re about to hurt herShe stopped telling me thingsI'd built a house full of eggshellsAnd I Defended myself, a man that was so greatBlaming her for not wanting me[Pre-Chorus]If you can’t connect, when does she rejectLook at the rejection ladder.If’s She’s not where you are, she’s not there, work lower[chorus]If she doesn't want sex and doesn’t desireWhat’re the dates like? Same old, or on fire?Not there, work lowerWhat’re the sexual flirts like? Can you touch her?Non sexual banter, anticipation does she feel it like you feel it for herHow’s the wit? Is it fun or passive aggressive, is wit a weapon?Still not there work lowerConversation’s where it's at, communication ain’t keyBut not there? How’s the day to day about your dayAre you walking on eggshells before walking through the doorThen that’s ground level, you’re starting on the floor[Bridge]This lack of sex isn't the problemIt’s the floor that you walk on that’s the problemYou try to recreate the spark, But theirs no kindlingYou fell apart, failing to build cause your connection is fadingNo foundation, it’s all negotiation, no conversationYou can’t climb the rejection ladderCause without a man, none of this matters[Turn]So work lowerStart at the baseSweep up the eggshellsMake your home a safe placeDon't reach for the topWhen you're still on the groundShe can’t rip off your clothes, if she doesn’t desireCan’t desire if she’s not intentionalCan’t be intentional if she doesn’t desire to desireCan’t do that, you’re so insecureYour questionin’, mind all over the place, your so damn threatenin’[Outro]Work lower on the ladderWork lower on the ladderWork lower on the ladder
22 I've Tried Everything
[Verse 1 — his confession, but still blaming]I've tried everythingTherapy, 14 years, Nothing works with my wifeShe's cold, she's mean, she's contempt in disguiseI've read the books, I've done the workCoaches, I show upSay the right words, do the right thingsI've tried everythingSo why does nothing changeI've tried everythingAnd she's still the same[Pre-Chorus — the mirror turns]But waitYou learn, but you’re not consistentWhen God or your wife makes it hard on youYou don’t implementYou go through the motionsCall it enoughYou built the wall, all her contemptYou made her meanIt’s not that you didn’t lead[Chorus — the gut punch]You led her backwardsYou’re responsible for your choicesYou enable the ugly, the poisonYour kids are watching you quitOn the vows you madeOn the wife you say you loveOn the man you said you'd beQuitting is hard, Starting over is hardBringing her back to life, that’s fuckin’ hardChoose your hardYou’ve tried everything but bein’ a man who leads[Verse 2 — the softer truth]You say you don't love herBut I know that's not trueI think you stopped leading herLong before she stopped choosing youShe's not who you marriedBut brother neither are youAnd the woman she becameIs a reflection of the man you became tooYou want to lead forwardBut you're leading her backwardsRunning from managing momentsInstead of showing her the view from the mountain top[Pre-Chorus — the mirror turns]You learn, but you’re not consistentWhen God or your wife makes it hard on youYou don’t implementYou go through the motionsCall it enoughYou built the wall, all her contemptYou made her meanIt’s not that you didn’t lead[Chorus — the gut punch]You led her backwardsYou're responsible for your choicesYou enable the ugly, the poisonYour kids are watching you quitOn the vows you madeOn the wife you say you loveOn the man you said you'd beQuitting is hard, Starting over is hardBringing her back to life, that’s fuckin’ hardChoose your hardYou’ve tried everything but bein’ a man who leads[Bridge — the shift, second person, the lift]You're not trappedYou are positionedRight on the edgeOf the hardest thing, that will make you the most you'll ever beThe man who quitsHis kids rememberBut the man who staysAnd changes it allShows his daughters who a man isAnd his sons how to love the right way[Final Chorus — full release, motivational]So stayNot because it's easyStay because you're a man of your wordStay because your kids are watching, they’re learningStay because she's still in thereWhen you stay, you bring her back to lifeLead her right this timeTo the new marriageStay because the version of youThat quits on this is not who you were made to beStayNot for her, for youFor the man you promised you'd beFor the man you know you can beStay[Outro — quiet, convicted]You were expected to know how to be a manBut you were never taughtI don’t blame you, but if you leave now it’s your fault
23 The New Marriage
[Intro]Kathryn you hated meDisgusted, repulsedAfter all the abuseI hurt you so badEmotionally, physically, sexuallyA narcissist, seemed like a sociopathDidn’t think you’d ever forgive meCome back to me, believe in me[Verse 1]So I almost leftI had one foot out the door so many timesI told myself you'd never see the new meSlept on the couch a thousand timesYou were angry, I couldn't take it anymoreI didn't know the woman I was married toSo stuck in the past and all my abuseI almost missed itAlmost traded everythingFor the lie that starting overWould be better than this[Pre-Chorus]Then I did the workNot for you, because of you — for meI hated Ryan, Cass was who I was born to beYou were waiting for me[Chorus]You’re safe enough to be you againYou reach for my handSit on my lap, touchin my face, sayin’ you’re proud of who I amI’d be crazy to live without you tooYou look at me the way you used toInto me, up to me, not through meNow you want me, need meYou desire meMy lover, my partner, my best friendKathryn, I’ve got your unapologetic self again[Verse 2]We built a victory out of our worst daysTold the truth about what I put you throughNow people show up broken, barely holdin' onAnd they hear our story — and they believe in themselves tooWe take the hopeless, give ‘em hopeGive ‘em faith, show ‘em there’s so much moreThey can reset their marriage, start something newPut a white picket fence around it and keep their family together, forever too[Pre-Chorus]We did the workNot for you, because of you — for meWe hated Ryan, Cass was who I was born to beYou were waiting for me[Chorus]You're safe enough to be you againYou reach for my handSit on my lap, touchin’ my face, sayin' you're proud of who I amI'd be crazy to live without you tooYou look at me the way you used toInto me, up to me, not through meNow you want me, need meYou desire meMy lover, my partner, my best friendKathryn, I've got your unapologetic self again[Bridge]I wasn’t a nice guyI was an assholeHad so much to proveI was such an assholeI thought you'd never come backBut you weren't gone — I was never hereAnd when I finally came homeYou were waitingDidn’t even know you needed a leaderOur kids have a father nowYou have a husband nowOur house is a homeOur marriage is a covenantAnd now we stand in front of men and womenWhen only one partner is inAnd we tell 'em — we were thereWe almost didn't make itDon't leaveDon't leave[Final Chorus]You can be safe enough to be you againReach for each other’s handsSit on your laps, touchin’ your faces, sayin' you're proud of who I amYou’d be crazy to live without each other toolooking at each other the way you always wanted toInto you, up to you, not through youWantin’ each other, needin’ each other tooDesireYou’re lovers, You’re partners, You’re best friendsYou’ll be your unapologetic selves again[Outro — to the listener]You almost leftDon't leaveThis is waiting for youThe new marriageThe new marriageDisrupting Divorce
24 Somebody's Daughter Featured
[Verse 1]You get pouty when she won'tYou shut down when she's too tiredYou pressure her, wear her downUntil she gives you what you wantYou tell her you need her touchThat connection shows you loveYou provide, she should put outThat's how marriage works[Pre-Chorus]Close your eyes for just a secondPicture your little girlGrown up, married, layin’ thereWith a husband just like youDoing what she doesn't want to[Chorus]Your wife is somebody's daughterShe's somebody's little girlShe doesn’t want to do it, but she has to do itWe call that rape in the real worldAnd you are that manTaking from your wifeYou know it’s true, but you need sex to surviveShe’s Somebody's daughterMaybe you should look over your shoulder for her fatherI bet you’d go to jail to protect your daughter too[Verse 2]You learned this somewhereFrom the man who raised youOr the hole he leftBecause he abandoned youYou learned what marriage looked like from a bad exampleBut now, you get to be that same damn exampleStop passing it downTo a son who's watching everythingAnd a daughter who's learningWhat she should accept from a man[Pre-Chorus]Close your eyes for just a secondPicture your little girlGrown up, married, layin’ thereWith a husband just like youDoing what she doesn't want to[Chorus]Your wife is somebody's daughterShe's somebody's little girlShe doesn’t want to do it, but she has to do itWe call that rape in the real worldAnd you are that manTaking from your wifeYou know it’s true, but you need sex to surviveShe’s Somebody's daughterMaybe you should look over your shoulder for her fatherI bet you’d go to jail to protect your daughter too[Bridge — breakdown]Your son is in your houseHe's watching how you treat your wifeHe's learning what a man isFrom you watching you with your wifeYour daughter is in that houseShe's watching how she gets treatedShe's learning what she deservesFrom you, a man tearing his wife and children downThree generationsYour father, you, your kidsThe cycle breaksOr it continuesThe choice is yours, your children are not immune[Final Chorus — shift to call-up]Your wife is somebody's daughterShe’s somebody's little girlShe doesn’t want to do it, but she has to do itWe call that rape in the real worldAnd you are that manTaking from your wifeYou know it’s true, but you need sex to surviveShe’s Somebody's daughterMaybe you should look over your shoulder for her fatherI bet you’d go to jail to protect your daughter too[Outro]Your kids are watchingWhat are they learningFrom you
25 Stop! Stop Using Porn
[Verse 1 — the betrayal]Every time you sneak awayEvery tab you open up in the darkYou're telling her she's not enoughYou're choosing a screen over her heartHer confidence is bleeding outShe's measuring herself against what you watchAnd she can't winShe was never meant to win against thatYou're building a wallBrick by brick by click[Pre-Chorus]And she feels itShe doesn't know what it is, but she feels it"I love you but I'm not in love anymore"Porn is sited in 70% of divorce[Chorus]Stop! Stop Using PornYou're betraying your wifeStop! Stop Using PornYou're wasting your lifeStop! Stop Using PornYour son's gonna find itYour daughter's gonna find itWhat are you teaching themWhat kind of dad are they watchingStop! Stop Using Porn[Verse 2 — the erosion]Every minute you're hidingIs a minute you could've been buildingThe emotional connection that makes her want youThe conversation that makes her feel safeInstead your phone is more importantAnd when you reach for herShe's repulsedNot by you — by what you've becomeThe man who chose a screenOver herYou're building a wallBrick by brick by click[Pre-Chorus]And she feels itShe doesn't know what it is but she feels it"I love you but I'm not in love anymore"Porn is sited in 70% of divorce[Chorus]Stop! Stop Using PornYou're betraying your wifeStop! Stop Using PornYou're wasting your lifeStop! Stop Using PornYour son's gonna find itYour daughter's gonna find itWhat are you teaching themWhat kind of dad are they watchingStop! Stop Using Porn[Bridge — the gut punch]You want to call it an addictionFineGet helpBut don't hide behind the wordKids are assaulted, average age 8Influenced by this shitKids go missing every dayAnd when they’re takin’where do they end upForced to do this shit high on methYou've watched the industryThat takes themHow do you sit at the dinner tableLook your kids in the eyeAnd tell yourself you're a great dadYou’re not even man enough to stop[Final Chorus — conviction]Stop! Stop Using PornYou're betraying your wifeStop! Stop Using PornYou're wasting your lifeStop! Stop Using PornYour son's gonna find itYour daughter's gonna find itWhat are you teaching themWhat kind of dad are they watchingStop! Stop Using PornStop! Stop Using Porn[Outro]Get helpGet out of your own wayStop! Stop Using Porn
26 She’s Not A Goal, She’s The Result
[Verse 1]You want the marriage backSo you're doing all the thingsYou changed your tone, not attackingYou're leading — but it stings'Cause she's not coming back as fastAs you think she shouldAnd you wonder if the work you're doingIs even any good[Pre-Chorus]She’s not a goal she’s the resultYou're still making her the measureA man who leads for outcomeYou have an invisible contract, you ain’t leadin’ just pressure[Chorus]Your wife is not the winBut God she's worth becoming a man forMy God you’re so much weight to carry, so much pressureFix the man — watch everything else followThat's how this has always workedShe's not a goal — she's the resultLead like she's watching — like she deserves moreBecome someone worth coming home forThe marriage is the byproductShe’s the booster, you’re the rocketLead her firstLead her firstYou are the winBe the rocket[Verse 2]When's the last time you asked yourselfWhat kind of man walks through that doorNot — did she notice, did she softenNot — what did I do it forThe man who fixes his own foundationDoesn't need his house to validate himShe feels the differenceBefore you say a word[Pre-Chorus]She’s not a goal she’s the resultYou're still making her the measureYou have an invisible contract, you ain’t leadin’ just pressure[Chorus]Your wife is not the winBut God she's worth becoming a man forMy God you’re so much weight to carry, so much pressureFix the man — watch everything else followThat's how this has always workedShe's not a goal — she's the resultLead like she's watching — like she deserves moreBecome someone worth coming home forThe marriage is the byproductShe’s the booster, you’re the rocketLead her firstLead her firstYou are the winBe the rocket[Bridge–slow, drawn out and impactful]Far too many men feel disrespected, but women submit to their manThey want to lift him, when he starts changing to save himselfWhen he submits and leads her first, he changes because he wants to be differentTired of the cycle, he’s finally ready to be realYour wife is not a goal — she's the result[Final Chorus]Your wife is not the winBut God she's worth becoming a man forMy God you’re so much weight to carry, so much pressureFix the man — watch everything followThat's how this has always workedShe's not a goal — she's the resultLead like she's watching — like she deserves moreBecome someone worth coming home forThe marriage is the byproductShe’s the booster, you’re the rocketLead her firstLead her firstYou are the winBe the rocket[Outro]The marriage follows the man(Fix the man)The marriage is the byproductShe’s the booster, you’re the rocketLead her first
27 Don't Have To Fuck Someone To Cheat
Don’t have to fuck someone to cheatDon’t have to fuck someone to cheatPorn, dating sites, texting someoneBut the most unaware man — he just talks to the other womanBecause all he needs is validationHe never touched another womanBut he ignores the correlationOne justification at a timeElevator another man’s wife, with your eyesYou don’t feel like a man, need validation to surviveYour wife needs connection just to want you nearBut how can you connectWhen you're this insecureYou don't have to fuck someone to cheatEvery lust, every site, every secret you keepBut here's what nobody tells you, manThe thing you're really missingIsn't herIt's youStop looking for yourself in another woman's eyesESPECIALLY YOUR WIFE’SLEAD YOUR WIFELove her, be confident, stop hidin’And you’ll bring her back to lifeA woman serves her husband when he serves her firstA man wants respectWhen's the last time you disrespected herHow do you react when your needs go unmetWhen she brings something up she actually needsOr when you feel like an ATM with no praiseHow intentional are your thank you'sFor everything she carries — the home, the children, youAre you even aware enough to seeThat every betrayal starts with forgetting what she feelsDo you listen to your wife in a conversationOr get defensive, attack and blameRunning to a screen instead of toward herCutting her down as you guilt and shame herHow often do you shut downPull away, go numb, lust somewhere elseA man is a product of his own choicesHimselfYour wife needs connection just to want you nearBut how can you connectWhen you're this insecureYou don't have to fuck someone to cheatEvery lust, every site, every secret you keepBut here's what nobody tells you, manThe thing you're really missingIsn't herIt's youStop looking for yourself in another woman's eyesESPECIALLY YOUR WIFE’SLEAD YOUR WIFELove her, be confident, stop hidin’And you’ll bring her back to lifeWhen a wife submits to her husbandIt's because he leads herHe doesn't betray her — he chooses herEvery day, in every room, in every moment she is watchingHe doesn't justify himselfHe sets the example for what this marriage is supposed to beHe brings the peace, the partnership, the passionShe's not afraid of submissionBecause he leads her through connectionYou don't have to fuck someone to cheatEvery lust, every site, every secret you keepBut here's what nobody tells you, manThe thing you're really missingIsn't herIt's youStop looking for yourself in another woman's eyesESPECIALLY YOUR WIFE’SLEAD YOUR WIFELove her, be confident, stop hidin’And you’ll bring her back to life
28 Best Day Of Your Life
[Verse 1]I used to wake with a war in my chestMad at the world, who am I gonna get nextI didn’t know it, but I was angry every dayPickin' a fight, pushin' love awayWhen I moved out, I should've drawn the lineMy parents paved the next two decades of my lifeI hit rock bottom where the truth burns brightYou either change or die in your pride[Pre-Chorus]After the restraining orderKathryn didn't trust a word I saidShe thought I was only acting different'Cause one more call and I'd be in jail instead[Chorus]Now every time somebody asks me how I amI look 'em in the eye and say it againIt’s the best day of my lifeIt’s the best day of my lifeNot because it's perfectNot because it all went rightBut 'cause I learned joy is a choiceAnd I won't hand that power to the nightYeah, the hell I walked through taught me how to fightIn the right way this timeSo a broken day can still beThe best day of my life[Verse 2]We got to where we didn't fight every dayOnly every three, and I thought that was changeI leaned in laughing, "Baby, this is wildWe're fighting every three days now" I must of sounded like a childI was so happy just to not be that manThree days of peace felt like a promised landThen Kathryn leaned in close and looked me in the eyesSaid, "That's not normal" — and it changed my life[Pre-Chorus]That was the momentSomething in me came aliveIf I can ruin a good day with everything going rightThen I can choose joyIn the middle of the hardest fight[Chorus]Now every time somebody asks me how I amI look 'em in the eye and say it againIt’s the best day of my lifeIt’s the best day of my lifeNot because it's perfectNot because it all went rightBut 'cause I learned joy is a choiceAnd I won’t hand that power to the nightYeah, the hell I walked through taught me how to fightIn the right way this timeSo a broken day can still beThe best day of my lifeThe best day of my life[Bridge]Growin' upI saw a fight every dayPain in the houseHad a price to payWe blame our pastWe excuse what we becameThen bleed on the peopleThat we swore we'd never breakBut what if joy is chosenWhat if the story can change[Final Chorus]So every time somebody asks you how you areSmile like you’re born again, joyful, you areIt’s the best day of your lifeIt’s the best day of your lifeNot because you’re fakingBut because God remade you, like meTruth hits hard and you wanna save itThis could be the worst day everAnd still be a great lifeAnd it's always the best day of my lifeAlways make it the best day of your life
29 The Affair Is Your Fault
Betrayal follows a predictable path.Betrayal is a tailspin[Verse 1]It started smallYou got comfortable, stopped tryin’She reached for you, but you were hidin’You were there but you weren't really thereLife got heavy, so you buried what you feltYou filtered your opinionsLost yourself somewhereWit became a weaponPeacekeeping replaced the truthAnd neither one of you did anythingWatching your life fade away[Pre-Chorus]Your wife was spinning too, every time you turned awayShe lost herself too, found a way to keep herself safeUntil you paved the way[Chorus]The affair is your faultNot because you’re the only one wrongThe affair is your faultNot because she's innocentBecause you enabled the distanceYour behavior, let someone else turn the light onShe wasn't looking for someone newShe needed space, breathing roomYou both got caught in the tailspinBut you led her there,You invited her in[Verse 2]The score-keeping startedCoping replaced connectionScreens, the bottle then silenceYou built the wall, broke the white picket fenceInsecurity, the monster, woke up"Who you talking to?""Why you dressed like that?"Every question built the wall higherEvery accusation opened her window widerShe wasn't leaving —You created her excitement for her new life[Pre-Chorus]Your wife was spinning too, every time you turned awayShe lost herself too, found a way to keep herself safeUntil you paved the way[Chorus]The affair is your faultNot because you’re the only one wrongThe affair is your faultNot because she's innocentBecause you enabled the distanceYour behavior, let someone else turn the light onShe wasn't looking for someone newShe needed space, breathing roomYou both got caught in the tailspinBut you led her thereYou invited her in[Bridge — slow, convicted, building]But I know a manHis wife was living in the other man's houseHe learned the tailspinHe pulled himself out of itHe got her backAnd anotherFour years divorcedBought a house with his ex-wifeThey remarried that’s what this song is forIt’s not luckI ABUSED MY WIFE EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, SEXUALLYNOW AS A NEW MAN, SHE CAN’T LIVE WITHOUT MEBe someone new, no-oneNo other man cancompare to the new you[Final Chorus — lifted, full]The affair was your faultBut that chapter doesn't have to be the endGod I know it hurtsThe hardest thing a man can deal withBut you could stand in front of a thousand menAnd be the only one she seesBut first you gotta name the driftOwn the descentAnd leadThe affair was your faultNow fix it
30 Violence Ain't Just Physical
I would never lay a hand on herThat’s what he tells himselfI’m a good man — decent, I provideI show up every daySo why does she hold her breathEvery time she hears my car back in the driveway?She reads my face before she speaksShe peeks from her cage before she breaksPicks her words careful like broken glassCause she knows how I’ll reactThat's not love — that's tryin’ to surviveThat's a woman always waiting for the storm to arriveViolence ain't just physicalYou don't have to raise your handsYou can do it with your voice, resting sneer faceWith your words, with your silence, you’re postureHow you pace,With the way a room goes coldWhen you walk through that doorYou never left a physical mark — You leave permanent scarsViolence ain't just physicalAnd you've been violent far too longKathryn told me once — she wished I'd hit herAt least then she'd have something real to showA wound that people recognizeInstead all alone, just trying to surviveCause invisible wounds are the cruelest kindWhen she questions her reality, wonderin’ what’s really trueAnd when you can't name what broke youHow do you ever start to move?She called for help one nightDidn't know what I might doGod help me when I think about that —I didn't know either. Do you?She reads your face before she speaksShe peeks from her cage before she breaksPicks her words careful like broken glassCause she knows how you’ll reactThat's a woman always waiting for the storm to arriveViolence ain't just physicalYou don't have to raise your handsYou can do it with your voice, resting sneer faceWith your words, with your silence, you’re postureHow you pace,With the way a room goes coldWhen you walk through that doorYou never left a physical mark — You leave permanent scarsViolence ain't just physicalAnd you've been violent far too longI'm not saying your fists don't matterI'm saying your words draw blood tooI'm not saying her bruises aren't realI'm saying her terror is realYou don’t get to decide what hurts herYou get to bring her back to life, she deserves moreViolence ain't just physicalYou don't have to raise your handsYou can do it with your voice, resting sneer faceWith your words, with your silence, you’re postureHow you pace,With the way a room goes coldWhen you walk through that doorYou never left a physical mark — You leave permanent scarsViolence ain't just physicalAnd you've been violent far too longIf she holds her breath when you walk inYou’re violent
31 You’re Wife Wants A Divorce
[Verse 1]Your Wife Wants A DivorceBut You Don’tYou Keep Calling YourselfThe Good manThe Nice guyA loving manThe Man Who Always TriedYou Did The ChoresGivin’ giftsYou’ll do anythin’ for herYou Say The WordsBut you’re keepin’ ScoreActing Like Love Was FreeThen Hatin’ Her when she didn’t meet your needsYou Weren’t KindYou Were NeedyYou Were Nice just to get what you wantNice Guys Finish Last’Cause Nice Assholes live under invisible contracts[Pre-Chorus]There’s Three Men Living In YouOne Who Loves, One Who Shuts DownOne Who Blames Her, when you don’t feel good enough about you[Chorus]Your Wife Wants A DivorceBut You Don’tShe Hands You The PapersSo Use ’Em To Light The FireSay, It’s Dark At EightLet’s Make Some SmoresAnd Sit Here long after We’re TiredShe’s Gonna Hate youBut you Can Use This Night for breakthroughYour Wife Wants A DivorceDon’t follow her path, fight her, but don’t go to war[Verse 2]She Got Tired Of Your PressureTired Of “Poor Me”Tired Of You Needing Her DesireNow she’s layin’ boundariesDon’t say I love you or use pet namesYour love was the monster In DisguiseTired Of You Smothering HerThen Looking Shocked In Her EyesThat’s The Nice Guy TriangleThat’s The TrapYour choices, led her to HellWalkin’ as a fake ManWhile Your Wife Walked in HellThere’s Three Men Living In YouOne Who Loves, One Who Shuts DownOne Who Blames Her, when you don’t feel good enough about you[Chorus]Your Wife Wants A DivorceBut You Don’tShe Hands You The PapersSo Use ’Em To Light The FireSay, It’s Dark At EightLet’s Make Some SmoresAnd Sit Here long after We’re TiredShe’s Gonna Hate youBut you Can Use This Night for breakthroughYour Wife Wants A DivorceDon’t follow her path, fight her, but don’t go to war[Bridge]You’re A Nice AssholeNice Until You Don’t Get What You needYou’re so sweet until you’re an assholeNow she’s gonna leaveSo stop your cycleMake the changes real,Make the changes lastAnd lead your wife from the past[Final Chorus]Your Wife Wants A DivorceBut You Don’tSo burn the PapersYou Want to give her HopeDon’t follow her to the endLead her to the top of the mountainNice Guys Finish LastGreat men lead her away from the past
32 Don’t Respect Her Boundaries
[Verse 1]She says, Don’t Say “I Love You”Don’t Call Me BabyLeave The HouseAnd Sign The PapersSo you make her pain yoursAnd it guides youYou’re So afraid of your own painYou make it about you[Pre-Chorus]She’s Setting BoundariesBecause You Never Set Your OwnNo Rule On Your AngerNo Strength In Your BonesNo Line On Your ToneNo Brake On Your NeedsYou Want To Stand Against Her PainWhile Still Being Weak[Chorus]Don’t Respect Her BoundariesYour marriage is worth moreTell your Baby you fuckin’ love herJust don’t run herYou can’t manipulate and stayCan’t control and expect her to stop sayingJust GoDon’t you dare follow a checked out wifeBut you better fuckin follow Through,Stand Up And Fight For Your LifeBring your wife back to life[Verse 2]You Used Boundaries Like A WeaponDrew A LineThen Crossed Your OwnTold Her She Had To Respect YouWhile You Lost Your Mind At HomeTold Her Not To YellThen you Yelled LouderTold Her Not To JudgeThen Tore Her DownCalled It StandardsCalled It LeadershipShe Just Learned To Shut You OutNow She SaysDon’t Touch MeDon’t Push MeDon’t You Dare Call This Love[Chorus]Don’t Respect Her BoundariesYour marriage is worth moreTell your Baby you fuckin’ love herJust don’t run herYou can’t manipulate and stayCan’t control and expect her to stop sayingJust GoDon’t you dare follow a checked out wifeBut you better fuckin follow Through,Stand Up And Fight For Your LifeBring your wife back to life[Bridge]Boundaries Were Made For ClarityNot ControlYou’re lack of them, turned you Into a WeaponShe’s not leaving you, just who you’ve becomeShe’s layin boundaries because you won’t changeProtectin herself from your entitled rageTake ResponsibilityFor Your ToneYour TriggersYour emotional loadInspireLeadInvite herThen Motivate, don’t control[Final Chorus]Put Boundaries on yourself manTake responsibility, be disciplinedThen Don’t Respect Her BoundariesBecause you Respect Your OwnRespect Your Core Values MoreThan Her Emotions In This StormA man can handle his little wife’s, big emotionsLeaders Don’t Collapse ThereThey stop fixin”, start changinDon’t Respect Her BoundariesBecome the eye of the storm[Outro]This Ain’t About Disrespectin’ HerThis Is About Killin’ What’s makin’ Her run and HidePut The Boundary On YourselfThen bring her back to life
33 Go Get Your Wife
[Verse 1]Your wife checked out while you were checking outNow you’re shocked she went quietMen wait till the rug gets pulled outThen wanna talk about the violenceAin’t just physicalNobody cares who you’re gonna beThey bleed from who you areAnd she’s gonna run into the side of your carSo buckle up, get your helmet on[Pre-Chorus]What’s happenin’ to you ain’t randomYou’re not confused, this isn’t fastShe didn’t wake up done this mornin’You opened your eyes after she packed[Chorus]Go get your wifeWith conversation. Communication’s not keyLay off the boundariesYour wife is your mirror, accountabilityGo get your wifeIt does not take two, it takes one to leadFinally take responsibilityIf you’re not the solution, you are the problemDon’t wait for rock bottomYou are responsible for your choicesGo get your wife[Post-Chorus]Sweep up the fuckin eggshellsQuit crying about the floorExpected to be a man but never taughtLearn who you are[Verse 2]She’s not using sex as a weaponShe’s rejecting what you’ve becomeYou keep calling it miscommunicationYou’re forcing her to hide, living numbNo woman is leaving or cheatingOn an amazing manShe’s running from the weight of a boyWho keeps wishing he was good enough to be her man[Pre-Chorus]A man can handle his little wife’s big emotionsAnd not make her carry hisYou want her soft, but you show up hard to loveThen act like she created this[Chorus]Go get your wifeWith conversation. Communication’s not keyLay off the boundariesYour wife is your mirror, accountabilityGo get your wifeIt does not take two, it takes one to leadFinally take responsibilityIf you’re not the solution, you are the problemDon’t wait for rock bottomYou are responsible for your choicesGo get your wife[Bridge]You got a hundred percent shot if you just don’t quitBut sorry ain’t a strategyStop tryin’ to talk your way into her head, her heart, vaginaNobody cares who you’re gonna beShe knows who you are and who you areIs defined by how you make her feel[Final Chorus]Go get your wifeNot by chasing, by you changingGo get your wifeBy becoming safe, by learning to leadGo get your wifeIt does not take two, it takes one to leadIf you’re not the solutionYou’re the problem, you’re bleedin’ now go build and createSweep up the fuckin eggshellsBuckle up, get your helmet onThis didn’t happen all of a suddenYou just waited way too longGo Get Your Wife
34 The 4 Stages Of Marriage
The Four Stages of MarriageThe first stage is the honeymoon phaseHead over heels... high on hopeAll you can see is good and greatLove her hard... hold her closeYou both validateApproveIntentionally meet her needsThe sex is fireLife is brightAnd everything feels like a dreamThen comes the selfish phaseReal life hits and you both bleedUnresolved traumaAnd wounds you causeTurn every interactionInto a need for validationYou blame each otherResentment buildsThe fun and intimacy fadeYou stay for kidsYou stay for vowsYou stay... but love does not feel safeMost people die right hereNot in a coffin... year by yearSame houseSame bedRoommatesNo life left in what remainsThere's four stages of marriageMost people never make it past the painThey coast... they quit... they call it normalAnd slowly let love die in its chainsBut if one heart wakes upIf you just accepted, you need to grow for youA marriage can come back to lifeAnd so can youAnd so can youI was abusive in the selfish phaseRestraining orderHouse in flamesThen I changed enough to stop the hellAnd thought that meant I'd really changedI thought baseline normal was revivalShe called it breathing roomI thought I brought the marriage backShe said, "I'm not in love with you"That broke me openThe real truthNot punishment... not being cruelI wasn't heavenI wasn't wholeI was just finally safe to be in the same roomThere's four stages of marriageMost people never make it past the painThey coast... they quit... they call it normalAnd slowly let love die in its chainsBut if your heart wakes upIf you just accepted, you need to grow for youA marriage can come back to lifeAnd so can youThen comes the impact phaseWhen one of you starts owning youNot to winNot to begNot to drag the other throughYou face your shitYou stand up firstYou change in ways they cannot hateAnd sometimes love looks like the oneWho outgrew you... still staysShe grew fasterShe loved harderShe could've left me in my shameBut she used her growth to lift me higherAnd I climbed higherAnd we changedThat's when the passion phase beginsNot just sex... but peace againYou see each otherHear each otherTouch without fearAnd love without endThere's four stages of marriageHoneymoonSelfishImpactPassionAnd we have bled through every oneFrom fire and hellTo truth to healingTo becoming who we should've been from day oneSo if you're stuck in stage two tonightAnd everything in you feels goneHear me clear, your marriage ain't deadIf you'll just be the oneTo hang onThe first stage is honeymoonThe second is selfishThe third is impactThe fourth is passionWe lived itWe lost itWe built it backAnd you can too
35 She Doesn’t Feel Safe With You
She doesn’t feel safe with youNo, you try, but you’re always sharpWhen you turn her pain into a courtroom in the darkShe brings you something smallYou do what men do, you try and fix itNow she’s explaining tears to a manWho only hears an attackYou call it leadershipShe calls it walking on eggshellsYou think she doesn’t love you rightShe thinks you’re hard to hold accountableShe doesn’t feel safe with youThat’s why the house don’t feel like a homeThat’s why the bed got coldBrother, her heart left long agoShe doesn’t feel safe with youThere’s no foundation for loveShe’s tired of facin’ it aloneYou want her softBut you show up hard as a rockNot the shoulder to cry onShe doesn’t need a fixerShe needs a man who will stayLong enough to hear the truthWithout defending it awayYou keep trying to solve the symptomsWhile the issues are bleeding outShe stopped telling you the deep stuff’Cause safety doesn’t exist in her worldYou want her openShe still feels like you’re a threatYou want desireShe wants emotional connectionShe doesn’t feel safe with youThat’s why the house don’t feel like a homeThat’s why the bed got coldBrother, her heart left long agoShe doesn’t feel safe with youThere’s no foundation for love.. She’s tired of facin’ it aloneYou want her softBut you show up hard as a rockNot the shoulder to cry onShe ain’t withholdingShe’s protecting what she has leftOf the woman who used to reach for youBefore she learned to live with regretEvery moodEvery lookEvery shift inside your chestBrother... with every level of safety you unlockA new level of intimacy unlocksShe can tell you the truthShe can breathe againShe can feel without managing, unapologetically herself againIf you want her heartQuit making her manage yoursIf you want her touchQuit making touch feel forcedIf you want her backDon’t be louder... be trueShe can feel love againWhen she feels safe with youShe doesn’t feel safe with youBut that don’t mean it’s deadIt means the man you’ve beenCan’t take her to the next levelShe doesn’t feel safe with youBut you can be the truthAnd with every level of safety you unlockA new level of intimacy opens up to you
36 She’s Not Afraid Anymore
[Verse 1]She used to sleep with one eye openI’d be wasted, drunk, stumblin’ inTake what I wanted, I’d pick a holeShe couldn't fight back, couldn’t say noShe dreamed of smothering meThought, “Fuck the pillow talk, I want to suffocate him”Thank God for you God, she didn’t kill meHer being Christian bought me the time I needed[Pre-Chorus]I was the monster who destroyed my wifeTaking it all from her, to feel aliveShe gave me her body just to save herselfShe sacrificed, she died inside[Chorus]But she's not afraid anymoreShe doesn't brace when I walk through the doorShe doesn't dream of life without meShe sleeps deep — she’s not afraid to be her anymoreShe's not afraid of me anymoreNo more fear in the middle of the nightProximity — she made a new love languageShe just wants to be close, by my sideAll day and night, she's not afraid anymore[Verse 2]She walks around free in her own houseSays what she wants and means what she saysDoesn't calculate every sentence to save herDoesn't manage what she does or what she wearsShe puts her hands on my chest nowShe’s so gratefulthat I'm realNot performing — she just wants me closeNeeds proximity — to be around me most[Pre-Chorus]I destroyed the monster, destroying my lifeTaking from me, to feel aliveNow she gives me her body to feel aliveWe submit to each other, we’re alive inside[Chorus]She's not afraid anymoreShe doesn't brace when I walk through the doorShe doesn't dream of life without meShe sleeps deep — she’s not afraid to be her anymoreShe's not afraid of me anymoreNo more fear in the middle of the nightProximity — She made a new love languageShe just wants to be close, by my sideAll day and night, she's not afraid anymore[Bridge — direct address]Brother if your wife isn’t intentionalShe doesn’t desire to desireShe’s still afraid, don’t take rejection so personalGod love her, it’s not enough for her to want to be a good wifeBe patient with her, impatient with yourself tonightLove her, get excited, let her feelAnd when she also needs sex to connectYou’ll know she’s safe, and you changed the man[Final Chorus]When she's not afraid anymoreShe won’t brace when you walk through the doorShe won’t dream of life without youShe’ll sleep deep — she’s not afraid to sleep anymoreShe's not afraid anymoreNo more fear in the middle of the nightProximity — her new love languageShe’ll want to be close — she’ll want to be close to youShe won’t be afraidShe won’t be afraidShe's not afraid anymore[Outro]She wants to be near youNot because she has toBecause she wants toAnd you’ll know the difference now
37 We’re Just Not There Yet
[Verse 1]We used to fight like we were at warThrowing words like broken glass across the floorI didn't even recognize the man I'd becomeAngry, cold, and numbWe called a truce but nothing ever changedJust learned to smile and the silence forced fake peaceSame house, same bed, but we were miles awayTwo strangers every day[Pre-Chorus]I told myself this is just how it goesBut somewhere underneath I knewWe weren't living — we were coastin’And that's not what I promised you[Chorus]There are stages on this roadEnemies, frenemies, just roommates going through the motionsBusiness partners, same address, oceans apartBut there's something more — something worth fighting forI can see it just aheadA superpower couple insteadWe're not doneWe're just not there yet[Verse 2]We got good at keeping scoreSplitting duties at the doorI'd handle mine and you'd handle yoursBut we lost what this was forBecause a team that only manages the loadForgets they used to set each other's souls on fireWe were efficient — not alivebut I want something higher[Pre-Chorus]I told myself this is just how it goesBut somewhere underneath I knewWe weren't living — we were coastin’And that's not what I promised you[Chorus]There are stages on this roadEnemies, frenemies, just roommates going through the motionsBusiness partners, same address, oceans apartBut there's something more — something worth fighting forI can see it just aheadA superpower couple insteadWe're not doneWe're just not there yet[Bridge — MASSIVE BUILD]I am done being comfortable with averageI am done settling for less than what God showed us what love isWe've been enemies, frenemiesWe’ve been coldWe've been roommates in our own homeAnd I am doneEvery stage we walked through the fireEvery mistake that made me climb higherI didn't break — I’m building usAnd now I'm coming home differentYou deserve the man I was always supposed to beNot the wreckage of my family’s historyI choose thisI choose youI choose the life we haven't gotten to yetJoin me on the top of the mountain[Final Chorus — full power]There are stages on this roadEnemies, frenemies — we've bled through every versionBusiness partners, broken hearts, drowning at the surfaceBut there's something more — I am fighting forWhat I see just up aheadA superpower couple insteadWe're not doneWe're just getting started[Outro — soft piano return]Every stage was building somethingEvery scar was teaching meI just had to want it badly enoughTo finally believe
38 Insecurity Is A Bridge
[Verse 1]She checks your phone at 2amAnd you lose your mind, mayhemGet defensive, tell her she's crazySay you haven't done a thingMost men run from what she feelsStuff it down, they appealDefend themselves to try and fix itBut, this could be the one thing that sets her free[Pre-Chorus]Because that's not about trustThat's about terrorShe's not trying to control youShe's trying to survive her fearOf losing the one manShe still believes inEven when believingNearly costs her everything[Chorus]No one will tell you – insecurity is a bridgeNot a cage, not a cliffThey tell you to tell them to clean up their baggageNo. It's the bridge between the man you've beenAnd the man she needs to liveDon't defend your privacyOpen up, protect your connectionTranslate what she's feeling:That must be terrifyingTo love someone so muchAnd still be so afraid[Verse 2]She's not crazyShe loves youInsecurity means she loves youShe's scared of losing youYour job isn't to prove her wrongYour job is to make the fear impossibleBecome so transparentSo consistentSo safeThat she doesn't need to check anymore, she doesn’t have to thinkNot because you forced her to trust youBecause you became trustworthyMaybe for the first time in her lifeShe can actually feel alive[Chorus]No one will tell you – insecurity is a bridgeNot a cage, not a cliffThey tell you to tell them to clean up their baggageNo. It's the bridge between the man you've beenAnd the man she needs to liveDon't defend your privacyOpen up, protect your connectionTranslate what she's feeling:That must be terrifyingTo love someone so muchAnd still be so afraid[Bridge]She's never had thatNever known what it isTo rest against a man’s chestAnd not be bracing for what comes nextYou'll be the first manWho stood still when it got hardWho didn't turn her wound into a warWho laid down his guardAnd when a man faces what's broken inside himHe leads a woman to feel safe enough to do the sameSomething forms between themThat the world cannot touchThat time cannot takeThat nothing can breakTwo people who walked through the fire togetherDon't burn the same way everSo cross the bridgeGo be her firstThe man who didn't flinch when it hurtWho faced the dark inside himselfAnd they come out on the other sideUnstoppable[Final Chorus]Because insecurity is a bridgeNot a cage, not a cliffThey tell you to tell them to clean up their baggageNo. It's the bridge between the man you've beenAnd the man she needs to liveWhen you face it with herWhen you both let love inYou build a connection so deepNothing comes betweenNot the fearNot the pastNot the lies you believed, or how you’ve betrayedShe's safeYou're freeAnd that bondIs everythingShe's got a man who lets her feelShe's finally got a man who lets her feel
39 The Honeymoon Phase (The First Stage of Marriage)
[Verse 1]Head over heels, high on hopeAll you can see is good and greatShe's everything you never knew you neededAnd you'd do anything to make her believeYou validate, approve, show upYou're intentional, you meet her needsThe sex is fire, life is brightAnd everything still feels like a dream[Pre-Chorus]Hold onto thisBecause you're gonna to lose itNot because love endsBut because you haven't met yourself yetThe man underneath the masksIs gonna to show upAnd when he doesEverything you built right hereIs gonna to be tested[Chorus]This is the honeymoon phaseAnd it doesn't last foreverThis is the first stage of marriageAnd you're going to have to fight to get back hereLove her like you love her right nowBefore real life hits and you both bleedBecause the man you are tonightIsn't the man you're gonna beHold on to thisHold on to herHold on[Verse 2]You don't see it comingNobody doesYou don’t change because you thinkShe should love you for who you areYou think this should be easyYou think love is supposed to feel naturalYou don't work with or deal with the wounds you carryOr the ones you're causin’You don't know yet about the selfish phaseOr how far you're going to fall[Pre-Chorus]But hear me nowFrom a man who lost it allThe version of you standing here tonightIs nowhere near the version you’ll need to repairDon't waste thisDon't take her for grantedDon't assume she'll always stayThe fire you feel right nowIs the fire you'll spend yearsTrying to fight for the yearsTo come[Chorus]This is the honeymoon phaseAnd it doesn't last foreverThis is the first stage of marriageAnd you're gonna to have to fight to get back hereLove her like you love her right nowBefore real life hits and you both bleedBecause the man you are tonightIsn't the man you're gonna to beHold on to thisHold on to herHold on[Bridge]So brace yourselfFor the selfish phaseMost people die right thereNot in a coffin, year by yearSame house, same bedRoommatesNo life left in what remainsYou don't have to be most peopleBut you have to decide that nowBefore the selfish phaseConvinces you it's her faultAnd it's easier to blame[Final Chorus]This is the honeymoon phaseDon't let it go without a fightThis is the first stage of marriageThe man she fell in love with tonightIs the man she's gonna to need you to find againWhen the damage is done and the distance sets inSo love her nowLike your marriage depends on itBecause one dayIt will[Outro]The first stage is honeymoonHold on to itThe second is comingThen impact, then passionAnd you're not ready for selfish yet
40 The Selfish Phase (The Second Stage)
[Verse 1]Real life hits and you both bleedYou stopped carin’ how she feelsUnresolved trauma, the wounds you causeYou rip each other apartEvery silence is a violent warYou remember the honeymoon you’re longing forLike a dream you can't get back toAnd the nightmare, you blame her for[Pre-Chorus]You stay for kidsYou stay for vowsYou stay for love but you never knew howSame house, same bedRoommates, no love remains[Chorus]This is the selfish phaseYou destroy her to save faceMost marriages die right hereMost people die, not in a coffin, but year by yearThis is the second stage of marriageWhere you hold your love hostageSo much easier to blameSo much easier to hateStop coasting, stop quittingIt’s not normal, no that’s society’s shitIf your heart would just wake upIf you’d just accept it, you need to grow upA marriage can come back to lifeYou can lead you both back to life[Verse 2]I was abusive in this phaseRestraining order, Kathryn was in chainsI changed enough to stop the hellAnd thought that meant I'd really changedI thought baseline normal was revivalShe called it breathing roomI thought I brought the marriage backShe said, "I'm not in love with you"That broke me openNot punishment, not cruelI had some growin’ up to doShe hated me, I hated me moreThat’s what the impact phase is for[Pre-Chorus]You stay for faithYou stay for hopeYou stay for love but love does not feel safeSame house, same bedRoommates, no love remains[Chorus]This is the selfish phaseYou destroy her to save faceMost marriages die right hereMost people die, not in a coffin, but year by yearThis is the second stage of marriageWhere you hold your love hostageSo much easier to blameSo much easier to hateStop coasting, stop quittingIt’s not normal, no that’s society’s shitIf your heart would just wake upIf you’d just accept it you need to grow upA marriage can come back to lifeYou can lead you both back to lifeYou can lead you both back to life[Bridge]The selfish phase will lie to youYou’ll feel worthless so you attackInsecurity grips youShe’s the problem, she’s stuck in the pastYou’ve tried everything, nothing worksThe passion phase is so far awayBut if you can make it, just get to impactNot for her, for youYou haven't triedYou've performedYou've apologizedYou've promisedBut you haven't changedAnd she knows the differenceYou can’t changeCause she’s the reason for your changeCause she’s the reason for your change[Final Chorus]This is the selfish phaseAnd you can stay here and die hereOr you can face your shit and stand up firstNot to winNot to begNot to drag her through itThe impact phase is waitingDon’t let love diiiiiiiiie in it’s chainsGo through it firstMake an impact first[Outro]The selfish phaseWill cost you everythingIf you let it win
41 The Impact Phase (The Third Stage)
[Verse 1]When you become the one who starts owning youNot to win, not to begNot to drag your wife throughYou face your shitYou stand up firstYou change in ways she cannot hateAnd sometimes love looks like the oneWho outgrew youStill stayedBut what do you do with that grace[Pre-Chorus]This is the hardest phaseBecause the selfish phase, grips you, rips youKeeps controlling youTwo steps forwardOne step backAnd she's watching every moveWaiting to see if this is trueOr just another apology season[Chorus]This is the impact phaseWhere you either break through or it breaks youThe third stage of marriageWhere you pay the ransom, release the hostageYou want to grow but she anchors youHolds on to your faultsMakes you responsible for her pain.You will never reach the passion phaseYou will never get back what you had beforeIf you don’t first leadTake responsibilitySo she can take her own accountability[Verse 2]She grew fasterShe loved harderShe could've left me in my shameBut she used her growth to lift me higherAnd I climbed higherShe was in her own impact phaseNot because I demanded itNot because she finally gave inBecause she became who she was created to beSo I grew, and I led her to trust in meIn her growth she was more than I deservedSo I needed to grow for me, or I’d lose her[Pre-Chorus]And the selfish phase still calls to meWhen I'm triggered, when I'm tiredWhen she has a bad day and I want to make it mineThat's when I have to rememberWhat it cost me to get hereI choose impact over instinctEvery single time[Chorus]This is the impact phaseWhere you either break through or it breaks youThe third stage of marriageWhere you pay the ransom, release the hostageYou want to grow but she anchors youHolds on to your faultsMakes you responsible for her pain.You will never reach the passion phaseYou will never get back what you had beforeIf you don’t first leadTake responsibilitySo she can take her own accountability[Bridge]You face your shitYou stand up firstNot for herFor youBecause the man who made it through impactIsn't the man who lived through selfishHe's someone newAnd she can feel the differenceShe just needs to see itLong enough to believe it[Final Chorus]This is the impact phaseAnd it doesn't end overnightIt goes on for the rest of your lifeKeep showing upKeep owning itKeep choosing her even when she's not choosing you yetThe passion phase is realBut it only comes to a manWho refuses to go backWho stays in impactUntil she finally sees itUntil she finally feels itUntil she finally saysI believe in you[Outro]ImpactThis is where most men quitDon't be most menBe the reason you live it
42 The Passion Phase (The Fourth Stage Of Marriage)
[Verse 1]Not just sex, but peace againYou see each otherHear each otherTouch without fearAnd love without endThis is what you fought forThis is what you almost lostThis is what the impact phase costAnd it’s worth every minute of your growth[Pre-Chorus]But hear meEven hereYou’re not safeEven passion bleedsIf you stop choosing itEven here the selfish phaseIs one bad day awaySo protect thisLike you know what it cost[Chorus]This is the passion phaseAnd you will bleed through every stageThe four stages of marriageWe have bled through every oneFrom fire and hell to truth and healingTo becoming who we should've been from day oneEvery time the Devil comes for youStay connected, find breakthroughMad passion is what you’ve been working forIntimacy, connection, knowing who you are[Verse 2]She sits on my lapTouches my faceSays she's proud to be my wifeAnd I remember the restraining orderI remember the house in flamesI remember the night she said she wasn't in love with meAnd I almost didn't make it hereI almost stayed in selfishI almost quit in impactAnd I would have missed thisI would have missed herI would have missed us[Pre-Chorus]So I don't take a single day of passion for grantedBecause I know what lives underneath itThe selfish phase doesn't disappearIt waits, it grips meAnd the only thing standing between passion and collapseIs the man I choose to beEvery morning she wakes up next to me[Chorus]This is the passion phaseAnd you will bleed through every stageThe four stages of marriageWe have bled through every oneFrom fire and hell to truth and healingTo becoming who we should've been from day oneEvery time the Devil comes for youStay connected, find breakthroughMad passion is what you’ve been working forIntimacy, connection, knowing who you are[Bridge]So if you're stuck in stage two tonightAnd everything in you feels goneHear me clearYour marriage ain't deadIf you'll just be the one to hang onThe passion phase is realWe lived in HellWe refused to fallWe built it backYou need impactLove had a meaningLaughing, dreaming, achievingConversation, flirts and banterHappily ever afterPassion is desire and sexIntimate on every level, more than you could ask[Final Chorus]This is the passion phaseHold on to it like you know what it costThis is the passion phaseLove her like the honeymoon phaseAnd learn to be so much moreOwn it like the impact phase taught youAnd never, never let the selfish phaseConvince you this isn't worth fighting forWe lived itWe lost itWe built it backAnd you can too[Outro]The first stage is honeymoonThe second is selfishThe third is impactFourth is passionWe’ve lived itWe’ve lost itWe built it backAnd you can too
43 She’s Never Had A Man
[Verse 1:]What if it takes four years to get your marriage backWhat if the road runs straight through hell to get thereYou said she was the one - don't you still love her?Stop shutting down, coping, leaving and ragin’Puking your feelings when she’s protecting herselfYou wouldn't follow a broke man to learn about moneySo why you askin’ a checked out wife, what would make you want me?I've been the man you are, she’s still afraid of you, craving peaceThat's why I can tell you, when she’s not in love, she’ll leave[Pre-Chorus:]I've remarried people who already signed the papersI've watched the abuse stop when he decides, enough is enoughThe breakthrough always comes right after the hardest partStayin’ when everything inside you says give up[Chorus:]She's never had a man who could hold herNot her daddy, not the ones who came before youNot even you - until right nowA man should be able to handleHis little wife's big emotions without runningWithout shuttin’ down, coasting, hiding, fixin’ or fightin’Let her feel what she's never been safe enough to feelOr you could just divorce her, and marry a manLearn who you are, who are you? Be who you were born to be, Live this lifeConsistently, lovin’ your wife, lovin’ yourself, with your real identity[Verse 2:]Along the way there'll be moments so goodYou'll swear this marriage couldn't ever get betterDon't be naive - there's always more aheadBut don't mistake the silent moments for peaceWhen she's emotionally broke and running on emptyDon't fix it - just grow up, just show up and hold the spaceWhen things are on fire and you feel like you made itSomething goes wrong and the weight of the world will break youPre-Chorus:8000 people in 4 years nowI've watched men like you rebuild it allThey swore she was gone for goodThat a marriage takes twoIt’s not gone, If you’ll be the one to leadHold the line, set your wife free[Chorus]She's never had a man who could hold herNot her daddy, not the ones who came before youNot even you - until right nowA man should be able to handleHis little wife's big emotions without runningWithout shuttin’ down, coasting, hiding, fixin’ or fightin’Let her feel what she's never been safe enough to feelOr you could just divorce her, and marry a manLearn who you are, who are you? Be who you were born to be, Live this lifeConsistently, lovin’ your wife, lovin’ yourself, with your real identity[Bridge:]The patience formula isn't real math in a book, on a pageIt's time multiplied by every wound and every time you ragedSubtract how much you can take before you walk awayThat number tells you how much longer you should stayTHEN ASK YOURSELF HOW LONG YOU PUT HER THROUGH HEEEEEEEEEEEEELLREALITY CHECK, HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN SHOWIN UP WEEEEELLLEvery lap you run, every win, every stepWhat if it takes four yearsThought you said, you love her[Outro:]I don’t know how long it will takeMy wife was worth the waitYou said she was the oneBrother, just Stay
44 Roommates
[Verse 1]You barely fight anymoreThe bills are paid, the kids are fedBut your marriage is a reflection of your dead bedTo the outside worldYou’ve got it allYou’re side by side yet so far from it all[Pre-Chorus]She feels the space between youThe eggshells underneath both of youYou stopped trying because you know what happensAfraid to make a move forward, afraid of rejection[Chorus]Roommates have everything but connectionAll those years, of her protectin’ herselfYou have a house but not a homeLaying next to you, and miles awayYou get along but you're both aloneMarriages die in a thousand small moments, not one big fightThis is the world’s normal, stop justifying your lifeShe's not your roommateShe's your wife... You can re-write your lifeBut a man’s either defined, or confined by who he is insideAnd his marriage is defined by that same man, decide tonight[Verse 2]Comfort killed attractionAnd stringing words ain’t communicationKeepin’ the peace using invisible contractsBut it’s you, who you’ve lost touch withYou may have changed, stopped the angerLess defensive, but you’re a strangerBut she knows you better than youThat’s why the changes don’t move you[Pre-Chorus]She feels the space between youThe eggshells underneath both of youYou stopped trying because you know what happensAfraid to make a move forward, afraid of rejection[Chorus]Roommates have everything but connectionAll those years, of her protectin’ herselfYou have a house but not a homeLaying next to you, and miles awayYou get along but you're both aloneMarriages die in a thousand small moments, not one big fightThis is the world’s normal, stop justifying your lifeShe's not your roommateShe's your wife... You can re-write your lifeBut a man’s either defined, or confined by who he is insideAnd his marriage is defined by that same man, decide tonight[Bridge]Make her laugh, bring her joy, lift her up, be gratefulKeep her safe, don’t take rejection, so personalYou’re not excited to see herYour conversations are too shallowYou’re not exciting to talk aboutCause the man inside you, is hollowYou’ve depended on her for so longYou don’t even know who you are[Final Chorus]Roommates have everything but connectionAll those years, of her protectin’ herselfYou have a house but not a homeLaying next to you, and miles awayYou get along but you're both aloneMarriages die in a thousand small moments, not one big fightThis is the world’s normal, stop justifying your lifeShe's not your roommateShe's your wife... You can re-write your lifeBut a man’s either defined, or confined by who he is insideAnd his marriage is defined by that same man, decide tonight[Outro]I know the way backBut you’ve got so much to proveIf you could just fix itYou’d feel good enough about youYou’d finally be good enough for her
45 Always In The Gaps
[Verse 1]I grew up in a house where love looked like hateEvery single day another war, so I learned to fightThey told me three times they loved me, I counted, that was allThree times they were proud of me, never good enoughThey said there was no God, just what you fight to earnJust a boy growin' up without a future[Pre-Chorus]She said she needed Jesus, she needed a man with faithI said give me everything I need and I'll go to churchI'll sit down, I'll listen, I'll try to prayAnd week after week something showed me[Chorus]But I couldn't find youI was looking but I couldn't hear your voiceDesperate for purpose, I needed something to believe inGod isn't it funny now, somehow, I just couldn't seeYou were always in the gapsBetween the things the world says worksAnd when I thought I'd tried everything to change meYou were always in the gapsI thought I figured it all out, myselfBut you were always there[Verse 2]They pulled us from crowds and said you will lay hands and healI drove straight to the liquor storeLike none of it could be realHow could that be true? I was tearing her apartEmotional, physical, sexual abuseThe cycle worse with every rotationIf there was a God, why couldn't he make this stop[Pre-Chorus]Court mandated anger managementI was still angry at the worldFourteen years of therapy and still destroying herI was nothing, good for nothingBut with you, your love, I could be somethin'[Chorus]But I couldn't find youI was looking but I couldn't hear your voiceDesperate for purpose, I needed something to believe inGod isn't it funny now, somehow, I just couldn't seeYou were always in the gapsBetween the things the world says worksAnd when I thought I'd tried everything to change meYou were always in the gapsI thought I figured it all out, myselfBut you were always thereBut you were always there[Bridge]I flew to AfricaSaid God if you're real, let me see you this timeJust one miracle and I'll give you everythingI'll lay it all down on the lineAnd I watched blind eyes openI heard a little girl speak for the first timeShe looked up and said "Jesus"And I found the kingdomYou were always thereIn the prophecies I didn't believeWhen they told me not to change how I speakWith the couples I was meant to freeIn what was missing in coaches, pastors 'n booksWhen she didn't believe in me or my workYou were filling in the spaces all along[Final Chorus]Now I found you in the gapsBetween the man I was and who I'm called to beNow I'm breathing life in couplesBreaking men from bondage, setting families freeYou were always in the gapsGenerational curses - we are breaking freeRemoving anchors as we hold our groundGod is good and always with meThat's my testimony[Outro]Thinking back, Kathryn's Dad, God rest his soulWhat if you don't see him, but he's hereThat's what he told me, the first prophecy
46 See Into You
VERSE 1Why don’t you want meWhy don’t you want sex"What's wrong with you, I'm a good manYou should want me"Every guilt trip built a wallEvery time you shamed her, you closed a doorYou blamed her, it's just her hormonesAlways putin’ her downIf she loved you, she’d want you morePRE-CHORUSSo she gave you what you asked forNot from desire, not from fireChecked it off the list to hold the night togetherHaving sex out of fear, was her managing the momentShe's not using sex as leverageWithout sex, you hold your love hostageShe just learned that it’s easier to get it over withThan deal with the emotions of a toddlerCHORUSGreat men want more than sexYou want her to see into youNot look right through youLaughter on a Tuesday over nothin’Chasing something’ you could build toward soonYou want her to look up from her phoneBe excited for the goal you’ve both been chasin’You want her to see into you, not through youThat's the gap between youAnd why you can’t bridge it, and intimately connectThat’s when she wants sex tooMmmmm that’s when she wants sex tooVERSE 2Ya and the saddest part is that she wants more tooShe's not fighting, she's not coldShe doesn’t even desire to desireShe tried that, sacrificed, just bein’ a good wifeShe’s not using sex as a weaponShe wanted you, but your entitlement, then your disconnectionYou call it all rejectionPRE-CHORUS 2But you built a wallShe's not withholding from youDesire isn’t her bein’ available for youShe doesn't even want youCHORUSGreat men want more than sexYou want her to see into youNot look right through youLaughter on a Tuesday over nothin’Chasing somethin’ you could build toward soonYou want her to look up from her phoneBe excited for the goal you’ve both been chasin’You want her to see into you, not through youThat's the gap between youAnd why you can’t bridge it, and intimately connectThat’s when she wants sex tooBRIDGEIntimacy is not sexSex is the byproduct of something realWhen you're known, when you're safe, not defensive in the messConnected on all levelsBreaking through the wall, instead of breaking down her heartYou can't guilt or shame your wife into wanting youYou’re like a sleazy salesmanAnd she’s been waiting for a refundThat’s why she rejects youOUTROYou want more than sexSomeone to talk to well into the darkConversation, dreaming, dinner table laughterYou want her to find the man behind the scars you’ve causedStop making her manage your moodsAfraid of what your silence bringsAfraid of all the ways you slip away into copingAnd all the ways you rageYou want her to see into youNot through youAnd when she desires you, sex is the byproduct of you
47 A Woman’s Power
[Verse 1]Seven times we separatedLove on the rocks, we shouldn’t have made itSeven hundred fifty nights I slept on the couchShe had every reason to walk outI was the kinda man that needed a restrainin’ orderThe alcohol showed her the parts I hadn’t worked onThe world had a label for me, she had a different oneShe called me husbandShe shouldn’t haveBut she stayedAnd somewhere in her stayingShe found the strength to help me find the real meAnd I started healing[Pre-Chorus]Kathryn taught me how to let love inI didn’t know how, didn’t know how to give it backShe taught me that tooHow to love steadyHow to stayTo stop the abuseAll the breakthroughsThank God for herShe saved my life and our familyAnd now the world can be set free[Chorus]You want what we have, a man who leads like meBut you skipped the partThat got us hereShe should’ve left, like everyone saysBut she stayed, and I changedYou don’t know your power as a womanThe way you can shape a manYou can breathe life into himI know you are, but stop bein’ a victim[Verse 2]Kathryn was the catalystShe changed everythin’But you hold onto the painLike it proves somethin’And when he finally starts to becomeThe man you asked for, you hesitateDon’t make him earn, what your pain already paid forWhen you get what you prayed for, just take itOr you might as well finally make a million dollars and burn it[Verse 3]I’ve seen it over and over, in thousands of menThey face their pain, the wounds they causeThey’re doing the workThey face their anger, stop copingThey fight their pastAll the ways they hurt her, they stop destroying her, lead to futureLead in their home, show her there’s moreThey show up differentBut she still seesthe old versionLike nothing resetsLike grace expiresLike healing isn’t the goalI get itWe were there tooBut I know what it costsThe selfish phase of marriagePulls you back, stops your impactSo much for your last shot[Pre-Chorus]Kathryn taught me how to let love inI didn’t know howDidn’t know how to give it backShe taught me that tooHow to love steadyHow to stayTo stop the abuseAll the breakthroughs[Chorus}You want what we have, a man who leads like meBut you skipped the partThat got us hereShe should’ve left, like everyone saysBut she stayed, and I changedYou don’t know your power as a womanThe way you can shape a manYou can breathe life into himI know you are, but stop bein’ a victim[Bridge]You prayed for him to changeHe did, he’s on his wayNow what, it’s too late?You asked for a different manNow you’re standing in front of himTelling a man with no worth, he’s worthless[Outro]Stop ignoring his changesYou’re finally able to liveYou’re not dreamin’Open your heart to something worth believin’[Outro]She loved meBefore I knew howShe stayedWhen she didn’t have toThrough the abuseAll the painThe screamin’The rage, the rapesYou can change your man tooShe stayedOur children are safeInfluence your husband too
48 I Abused You
[Verse 1]I thought I was loving youHad no idea I was bombing youI didn't know what it felt like to truly feel lovedSo I blamed you for not loving me enoughAttackin’ your character as a wife a mother, a womanTearin’ you apart, to build myself upYou gave me more in 30 days than I’d ever feltBut you couldn’t reach me, so I dragged you through Hell[Pre-Chorus]If you didn't need me, I was nothingNo matter how much you loved me, I was nothingI tried to hold on, but my grip was all you could feelYou tried to hold on, but you were slipping away from me[Chorus]So I abused youI destroyed youAnd I thought I was loving youI didn’t even love myselfBecause I didn’t know who I wasThe violence, the assaultsAll those times I broke your heartDefined by my guilt and my shameI was the man I knew I hate[Verse 2]It wasn't hateNot when it startedI used your love to feel wholeWhen the love ran out I used the fight‘Cause with anger I recognized myselfLies, manipulation, the crazy makingNot an excuse, but I was survivin’I was a ghostAnd it was always your fault for holding us backEasy to justify my attacks[Pre-Chorus]If you didn't need me, I was nothingNo matter how much you loved me, I was nothingI tried to hold on, but my grip was all you could feelYou tried to hold on, but you were slipping away from me[Chorus]So I abused youI destroyed youAnd I thought I was loving youI didn’t even love myselfBecause I didn’t know who I wasThe violence, the assaultsAll those times I broke your heartDefined by my guilt and my shameI was the man I knew I hate[Bridge]You loved meI didn't know how to hold itEvery time you gave itI found a way to break itNot because I didn't want itBecause a man who never learns what love isWill always destroy what he doesn’t understandHe believes he's a safe man, it’s her pushin’ him too far[Pre-Chorus]But you didn't need me, you wanted meNo matter how much you hated me, you made me somethin’I pushed you away, you held on to me tighterWhen I let go, you were always there to remind me[Chorus]I could love youThat love could be realTo trust I knew howAnd I learned how to love myselfAnd now I know who I amNow I protect you, you’re safeYou get all of my heartYou’re the reason I loveAnd the proof that I can[Outro]I wanted to love youI thought I wasI just didn't know how to believeI was worth what you gaveThat's the truth about a man like me, and what you’re goin’ throughHe doesn't tear you down because he hates youHe tears you downBecause it's the only way he knows how
49 The Eye Of The Storm
(First Dance / Wedding)[Verse 1]We stood in the wreckageOf everything we brokeTwo people who gave upThen stopped relying on hope‘Cause something in us refusedTo let this be the endSo we walked back through the fireAnd we did it all again, and again, and again[Pre-Chorus]We didn't save our marriageWe burned the old one downWe both became someone differentAnd built a real life, a new marriage[Chorus]Now we're in the eye of the stormWhere nothing can reach usWhere chaos can't teach usAnything we don't already knowWe're in the eye of the stormNot this time, no, not death do us ‘partNo, not us, we’ve already held on through the darkAnd this, our loveOur love is for eternityWe made it to the eye of the storm[Verse 2]I see you standing here nowFree in who you areNo more fear between usNo more distance, no more scarsYou're not who you wereNeither am IThis is what it looks likeWhen two hearts refuse to die, the devil’s lie, and we fight[Pre-Chorus]We didn't save our marriageWe burned the old one downWe both became someone differentAnd built a real life, a new marriage[Chorus]Now we're in the eye of the stormWhere nothing can reach usWhere chaos can't teach usAnything we don't already knowWe're in the eye of the stormNot this time, no, not death do us ‘partNo, not us, we’ve already held on through the darkAnd this, our loveOur love is for eternityWe made it to the eye of the storm[Bridge]We went through hell to get hereAnd God, it was worth every scarLook at where we're standingNothing can tear us apartThe changes we madeMade us unstoppableWhen the whole world says quit, it’s impossibleWe say noLook at us nowWe didn't just survive itWe became the proofThat love can be rebornWhen two souls collide, and choose the truth[Final Chorus]Now we're in the eye of the stormWhere nothing can reach usWhere chaos can't teach usAnything we don't already knowWe're in the eye of the stormNot this time, no, not death do us ‘partNo, not us, we’ve already held on through the darkAnd this, our loveOur love is for eternityWe made it to the eye of the storm[Outro — tender]You're my calmIn everythingYou're my homeYou always wereWe just had to find our way backTo each other
50 I’m Holding On
[Intro][Soft piano and acoustic guitar, intimate studio, no ambience][change voice as instructed][Verse 1]Today we’re getting marriedI know the road gets hard from hereI know there’s versions of me you haven’t met yetAnd some of them are gonna make you bleedI’m standing here with my eyes wide open‘Cause real life hits, it’ll try to break usI’m saying yesI do,Because I already chose youAnd no matter what comes at usI’ll hold on[Pre-Chorus - STRICT ALTERNATION, ONE LINE EACH]When the fire fadesWhen the easy days are goneWhen you see me at my worstAnd I see yoursWhen we lose our wayAnd we can’t find this songI want you to rememberWhat we’re singing right now[Chorus - NO MID LINE SWITCHING]I’m holding onThrough every season, every scarI’m holding onHowever hard, however farWhen we make mistakes and lose sight of our vowsWhen the whole world says let goWe’re not going anywhereWe’re holding onWe’re holding on[Verse 2]I know we’ll have days we sleep on our sidesNot touching, not talking, not tryingI know there’s parts of you I’ll misunderstandAnd moments I’ll be the reason you’re cryingBut standing at the alter nowI know this love is worth the fightThe choice we’re making here todayIs one we’ll make our whole life[Pre-Chorus - STRICT ALTERNATION, ONE LINE EACH]When the fire fadesWhen the easy days are goneWhen you see me at my worstAnd I see yoursWhen we lose our wayAnd we can’t find this songI want you to rememberWhat I’m singing right now[Chorus - NO MID LINE SWITCHING]I’m holding onThrough every season, every scarI’m holding onHowever hard, however farWhen we make mistakes and lose sight of our vowsWhen the whole world says let goWe’re not going anywhereWe’re holding onWe’re holding on[Bridge - STRICT NO OVERLAP]I see youI choose youNot just todayFor all our tomorrowsWhen life gets heavyWhen we lose our wayI’m not runningWe’re choosing to stay[Final Chorus - SAME RULE]I’m holding onThrough every season, every scarI’m holding onHowever hard, however farWhen we make mistakes and lose sight of our vowsWhen the whole world says let goWe’re not going anywhereWe’re holding onWe’re holding on[Outro]Hold on to thisHold on to meHold on with meHold on for this
51 The Real Issue (In Marriage)
[Verse 1]She says he never does enough around hereThey're fighting over porn, alcohol, communication, betrayalHe says she never lets him touch her anymoreBut neither one of them sees the real issue, what's at the coreHe scrolls until the morning takes the nightShe carries every weight inside their homeHe works late or copes to avoid the fight, another sexless nightAnd they both just hide to hide bein’ alone[Pre-Chorus]Therapists labeled attachment styles, called them brokenYou call it narcissism, call it controlAll these labels you’re throwin’But the diagnosis never touches the marriage’s soul[Chorus]Comfort is the addiction no one's namingYou’re fighting over symptoms, not the issue, they break youIt's easier to blame the ways they hurt you than face the real issueCause a man with no self worth, hides and blames until he hits rock bottomA worthless man will take whatever dulls the painAnd shaming him with the rules of marriage won't move himGuilt a worthless man and watch the cycle spinYou take a man with no self worth, and make him worthless again[Verse 2]He says, he’s providing, he’s doin’ his partThey’re fighting over her disrespect, no sex, he’s just an atmShe's drowning in the weight she's been carryingHe's numb to everything — it's just easier to fakeThey'll blame the childhoods that they both survivedThey'll call it poor communication, traumaBut they’re treating symptoms of a deeper woundHe's been running from himself his whole life[Pre-Chorus]You labeled him a cheater, alcoholic, called him brokenSay he doesn’t feel, can’t express emotionAll these labels you’re throwin’But the diagnosis never touches the marriage’s soul[Chorus]Comfort is the addiction no one's namingYou’re fighting over symptoms, not the issue, they break youIt's easier to blame the ways they hurt you than face the real issueCause a man with no self worth, hides and blames until he hits rock bottomA worthless man will take whatever dulls the painAnd shaming him with the rules of marriage won't move himGuilt a worthless man and watch the cycle spinYou take a man with no self worth, and make him worthless again[Bridge]What if the man in the mirror could see himself clearlyNot the failure she fights or the one you becomeWhat if worth wasn't something you earned or lost dailyWhat if truth in who you could be, was an opportunityIf you’d finally address the real issue in marriageYou don’t know who you are, and you hide behind the comfort in blaming her for how you hurt[Final Chorus]When a man discovers he is worth something alwaysWhen the shame gets replaced by a reason to riseWhen identity changes in the hard, in the narrow, the wideThe marriage doesn't have a choice but to come aliveComfort was the thing you chose instead of changingA slow and quiet death you silently agreed to liveThe real addiction was avoiding who you’re facingA worthless man — until you learn you have something worth givingIt was never about the dishes or stupid shitNever the bedroom, the betrayal, the pornForget the labels, the substances and the painIt was always about a man who needed to know his worthAnd a woman brave enough to stay
52 Everybody Wants My Life, But She Doesn’t Want Me
[Verse 1]I built the kind of life they print in magazinesThe house, the cars, the family, everything perfectlyPeople walk up asking how they get what we’ve builtFrom the outside looking in, I can’t argue with what they feelWe laugh in our home, she’s the best friend I’ve gotWe do the school runs, dinners, homework, she wants for nothingBut when the bedroom door gets closed and the house goes quietThere’s something wrong in here nobody knows[Pre-Chorus]I can’t tell my colleagues, can’t tell my closest friendsMen like me don’t talk about failing herSo I keep winning in the places I know I canAnd blaming her for not wanting her man[Chorus]Everybody wants my lifeThe house, the cars, the pretty wifeThe kids are smiling in the picturesAnd Sunday morning looks just rightBut when the lights go out at nightThere’s a truth they can’t see, I can’t speakEverybody wants my lifeBut she doesn’t want meHow can life be so perfectWhen my wife doesn’t want me, I feel worthless[Verse 2]She doesn’t hate me, that’s the thing that breaks me downShe’s kind, she laughs, she says she loves me, doesn’t know what’s wrongI give her everything, she never asks for moreShopping, date nights, vacations, you want it, it’s yoursI don’t understand why I can’t reach her anymoreI know I’ve been angry when I should’ve been quietGone quiet when she needed me to prove itAnd I can’t go to anyone with my reputationA man like me doesn’t get to say his wife doesn’t want him[Pre-Chorus]I can’t tell my colleagues, can’t tell my closest friendsMen like me can’t tell them they’ve got it wrongSo I lead everyone around me but the woman I loveAnd I wake up every morning more alone[Chorus]Everybody wants my lifeThe house, the cars, the pretty wifeThe kids are smiling in the picturesAnd Sunday morning looks just rightBut when the lights go out at nightThere’s a truth they can’t see, I can’t speakEverybody wants my lifeBut she doesn’t want meHow can life be so perfectWhen my wife doesn’t want me, I feel worthless[Bridge]I avoided her because of the pressureCopin’ with work, ‘cause this was our futureBut I was leading strangers betterThan the woman in my bedI’m scared to tell somebodyScared of what they’ll think of meBut hiding hasn’t saved my statusIt’s taught her how to live without me[Final Chorus]Everybody wants my lifeBut I’m done living twoI can’t fix this with more moneyI need to tell the truthIf I built this whole damn kingdomAnd still lose my familyThen all the work was for nothingAnd that’s not what matters to meI don’t need another reasonI don’t need another lieI need to learn to lead the womanI’ve been losing every night[Outro]They might want my lifeBut I see it nowI finally want my wife, more than my pride
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